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Unread postby GogiGoran88 » 15 August 2014, 19:51

Hi!

I have a question about a sex scene that happened to me last night. I was seeing this guy for over a month and I thought that we are starting a relationship. But we never had sex. Last night we were in my apartment and both of us were feeling a little horny so we went in to the bedroom and got naked. Everything was fine, we were kissing a little at first and then we were ready for sex.

I put on a condom and he put on a lube. I was on my back and he came on top of me. At first everything was fine. We were going easy and slow and all of a sudden he started to cry. I don't know what happened but he started crying and put his face in my chest.

After 5 minutes, without saying anything, he just got up, got dressed and left. I was asking him what was the problem and he said it's nothing and left. I've been calling him all day and he wouldn't answer. And I really like him and I would love to have sex with him but I don't know what happened and I don't know what to do know.

Can someone please explain or simply just give me an opinion on what could have gone wrong because I am all out of ideas.

Thanks
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Simon » 15 August 2014, 19:56

I have absolutely no idea if this is applicable to your situation or not, but the first time I had sex after breaking up with my ex I burst into tears midway through and could not stop sobbing to save my life. That is to say, it's probable you did nothing wrong; he might be going through something and will tell you in his own time.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby GogiGoran88 » 15 August 2014, 20:09

Thanks for your reply. Anyway he didn't had a boyfriend in over 2 years and he said he didn't had sex in 2 months. I don't think that he had a hard time over a breakup or something. But like you said, he is definitely going through something. But I have been calling him and he isn't returning my phone calls. I don't know what to do. Should I wait and stop calling him, or should I try to get in contact and see if I can help somehow?
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Josh » 15 August 2014, 21:27

You've made it clear you're there for him, even if he's rejected your calls. Give it some time and see if he takes it upon himself to get back to you. If after a few days you haven't heard anything then maybe try again, maybe leave a message or a voicemail to let him know a bit more explicitly why you're trying to contact him - if you genuinely really like him then just make sure you're there and ready to listen whenever he's ready.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby RenĂ© » 15 August 2014, 21:43

My first boyfriend was sexually abused as a child and he could barely even think about having sex without getting sad and crying. Maybe he experienced something traumatic like that at some point?

And I agree with Szazomy.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Josiemonster » 15 August 2014, 22:12

I cry every time I have an orgasm. I don't know why.
I have had night terrors that involve very graphic rape, so that could be it, but I think it's more to do with the chemicals and hormones that are released during sex.

I also agree with Szaz
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby GogiGoran88 » 18 August 2014, 14:28

Thank you all for your replies. He finally answered his phone and we got together only to tell me that he don't want us to see each other anymore. And that was it. He didn't want to talk about anything anymore he just up and left. And I still don't know what happened but I am not even going to try anymore. If he doesn't want to talk about it that is his problem. I guess that I will never know for sure what happened
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Welp » 18 August 2014, 17:16

GogiGoran88 wrote:Thank you all for your replies. He finally answered his phone and we got together only to tell me that he don't want us to see each other anymore. And that was it. He didn't want to talk about anything anymore he just up and left. And I still don't know what happened but I am not even going to try anymore. If he doesn't want to talk about it that is his problem. I guess that I will never know for sure what happened

Sounds like you dodged a bullet and avoided dating someone with some serious emotional problems.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Luke » 18 August 2014, 17:32

This is why you should always have sex before getting in a relationship with someone.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Pierro stardust » 18 August 2014, 21:08

Luke wrote:This is why you should always have sex before getting in a relationship with someone.

:lol: My heterosexual side laughs, yet my gay side is according... :werd:

gollum, gollum :rofl:
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby FrankieBoy » 19 August 2014, 12:31

Daddy issues.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby hnngh » 20 August 2014, 16:38

FrankieBoy wrote:Daddy issues.


Is this supposed to be a joke?
Too many lights out
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Connor » 20 August 2014, 16:52

Aw, that's sad. I'm sorry he left you. Unfortunately things like this happen sometimes and there's not much you can do but give him the space he needs. Chances are it wasn't you; so don't blame yourself for anything.

First time I had legit sex I got all emotional and weird about it (I actually started laughing though like a freak), simply because it was so overwhelming and I didn't know what to do with myself afterward. Emotions are weird.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby shadow_x » 21 August 2014, 03:20

This is just a theory, I think I've been watching too much of the Horizons...but is it possible that he found out he has HIV or some other life threatening disease like cancer and doesn't want to burden you?
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Biboy94 » 30 August 2014, 02:42

GogiGoran88 wrote:Thank you all for your replies. He finally answered his phone and we got together only to tell me that he don't want us to see each other anymore. And that was it. He didn't want to talk about anything anymore he just up and left. And I still don't know what happened but I am not even going to try anymore. If he doesn't want to talk about it that is his problem. I guess that I will never know for sure what happened


Aww, I am sorry you two broke up. I hope you find another boyfriend.
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Re: My boyfriend started crying during sex

Unread postby Michael B » 18 September 2014, 01:08

Women have a different expereince of climax to men. With women it is plain simple orgasm, but to men it is much more than that.
Some say that with men it is like "Going to Heaven" and some have or experience some notion of The Lord or Supreme Being, almost a "religious" experience.
Maybe something like that happened, and he has "gone to find himself" "gone to look for something more" or whatever. Climax is strange for men, and they say that men SHOULD associate pleasure with other men, as ultimately The Lord and all his Angels are male and if you think it is taboo to have pleasureable feelings with a male, then how are you going to feel for all those beautiful Male Angels and a beautiful Male Lord, all of them shining and pure and untouched by woman that is for sure. To be sure, some kind of pleasurable feelings would be involved.
Never listen to women or what they say, they do not understand men at all. Feminism is the obvious proof of that. They think men work the way they do, and basically no they do not, so for women plain bodily orgasm is nothing like what men experience.
And anyhow women turn on the waterworks at the drop of a hat, 20 times a day, whereas for a man to cry, it is usually something pretty serious.
You might like to keep in touch with him, not for a relationship, but just to see if he needs help, let him know you care kind of thing, many men bottle it up and cannot talk. He may appreicate a friend.
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