My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

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My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

Unread postby Koftruecross » 7 May 2019, 16:35

It's okay. You can laugh at my helmet hair that was the style in the 1970's. When I was in high school (1975-1979) I dated girls. In my freshman and sophomore years I dated Tina. In my junior and senior years I dated Gail. We went to the Homecoming and prom dances.
I pray the younger gay guys won't hate me for my sham. Coming out was NOT an option. In the 1970's Hollwood was extremely brutal in their depictions of gay men. (The Eiger Sanction). It was a horrible time to be gay. Do you think I should have been militant?
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Re: My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

Unread postby Midlifewotsit » 7 May 2019, 23:15

It was a different time my friend, I can remember knowing at about the age or seven that I was different and although I didn't know what Gay was I do remember knowing deep down that what ever it was that made me different had to be hidden. When you've lived through times when being gay was still on the medical register as a mental illness, when insurance companies could refuse cover because simply being gay put you at risk of HIV. When being out at work could cost you your job and the legal protections we enjoy now simply didn't exist who can blame a person for keeping quiet.

As a bit of a old codger myself I often cluck my tongue and wag my finger at the millennials with their safe spaces and trigger warnings but I'm in awe at their ability to accept anyone and everyone. Tell one "I'm gay" and they look at you waiting for the rest...."I'm a gay non binary, gender fluid pre post op transsexual who gender identifies as a sperm whale every third Tuesday" and they might raise an eye brow or more likely tell you their friend from College is the same and they can hook you up if you want.

The world we live in now with all the protections we have and the general acceptance we enjoy didn't happen without people who were Out, Loud and Proud and I'm unbelievably grateful to everyone who was brave enough to stand up and fight for those rights I now have. I have no shame admitting I wan't one of them,.......I was too scared.
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Re: My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

Unread postby UndercoverLover » 17 May 2019, 16:29

I dated girls too. I did it because I thought that's what I was supposed to do. I'm very thankful for the guy who opened my mind (among opening other things lol) and helped me realize who I really am.
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Re: My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

Unread postby Eryx » 17 May 2019, 17:05

You don't have to feel guilty about it, you were only protecting yourself. We've made it this far and we have to remember those who took our first steps, but you don't need to feel bad for not being there. What's important is what you do now.
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Re: My str8 sham life as a teenager in the 1970's

Unread postby acpro » 17 May 2019, 20:27

Tell us more! Did you live in Hollywood? If not, where in the US were you? Do you have any lessons learned by surviving the HIV epidemic (not like wear condoms but life lessons or whatever)? Was it possible for you to meet other gay men? Did you know any other gay men? What was getting housing like if you were gay?
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