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Nervous to act on bi-fantasy

Unread postby Cannonr » 8 October 2019, 16:50

Hey guys I’m new here... I’ve been thinking about trying to hook up with guys for a while because I would describe myself as being very bi-curious, I don’t find myself attracted to most men but I love the thought of having sex with somebody with a penis... I find myself staring at guys in the locker room and having fantasies about them and I watch a lot of gay porn because I find it almost gets me more aroused than straight. I have messaged some guys online in my city and they are willing to host to try it out but I find myself too nervous to ever follow through with it! I think my biggest fear is that when I get to someone’s house I get too nervous and loose my urges. Some people have suggested ‘poppers’ help with this? I really just need some sort of extra push to try Messing around with a guy because the thought of it is driving me crazy everyday. Anyone that has been in my situation have any insight for their first encounter? Thanks in advance.
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Re: Nervous to act on bi-fantasy

Unread postby Jzone » 9 October 2019, 17:40

Welcome to the forum. Your profile says you are 19, so there are lots of guys your age in a similar situation as well as older guys (a little or a lot) willing to help you out. I recommend actually meeting guys and getting to know them a little rather than just going for a hookup. Depending on where you live, this may or may not be easy. You said "city" so I expect there are gay or gay friendly bars, as one option. If you do that, just be clear about your boundaries and what you are looking for. You can always say "no, thanks."

You mentioned messaging guys who are willing to host you. I suggest you be really up front with one or several of them that you are looking for your first time and want to feel comfortable with the guy. Meet for coffee or a beer first and get an idea of who they are. It may seem awkward, but it could go a long way to easing the nervousness you might feel if you show up at a stranger's house with the pressure of sex. If you find a guy who is willing to meet up, chat, joke about it, and take their time, you might have a much better first experience than an anonymous hookup. Who knows? If it goes well you could even find yourself with a new friend-with-benefits or even a boyfriend.

Remember that almost everybody your age and older has sex. Lots of young guys experiment, whether they turn out to be gay or bi or not. If you treat it like normal behavior rather than something embarrassing, much of your nervousness might fade away. That doesn't make the first time any less exciting.

Good luck, and let us know how things go for you.
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