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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby PopTart » 2 April 2022, 09:49

Handsome Boy wrote:I think the men of the 1970's and 1980's were much more attractive in dress, hairstyles and grooming. It may also have to do with the personality of today's men. I consider myself a homosexual with only male-to-male sexual attraction but the partner has to be young, smooth and refined to make my cut.
You kidding right? Men in the 70-80's all had handlebar moustaches, long shaggy hair and decidedly ungroomed never regions. Beards were a thing then too.

Handsome Boy wrote:I am attracted to men who are smart and cultured and not ignorant and boorish. The sound of the voice is also important. The male voice that is low and smooth has attraction for me. Any man with any facial hair or body hair is a deal-breaker for me.
And is there anything else sir would like from the menu? Perhaps wash board abs? An echoing voice delivered in pear shaped tones? A man riding a steed, 15 hands tall, in resplendant garb, with deeds to a kingdom in the saddlebag and hair blowing lustrously in the wind, as the rider crests a hilltop with the rising sun at his back...

Maybe you could, you know, just get to know people, as opposed to ticking off a checklist that is a grab bag of all your idealised traits. You'll be more likely to actually met a real person that way.
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby René » 3 April 2022, 00:44

Yeah, no one I've ever ended up in a relationship with would have matched a checklist I'd have composed at the time.

I actually did compile a compatibility checklist at one point in my late teens. I turned it into a spreadsheet that automatically assigned people a compatibility score. I still have it somewhere. 5.5 was a passing grade I believe, just like on tests at the schools I went to. Dealbreakers guaranteed a fail. I somehow convinced all of GayTeenForum to complete the requisite questionnaire, and in their data went. :P

It produced no boyfriends. :sadblue:

Guess what? My eventual partners would have failed miserably, and 15 years later my preferences are quite different. And I'm still happy with the guy I found 13 years ago who would have failed that test. :heart:

We don't choose who we love and are lucky to form a sustainable connection with anyone at all. I suggest you heed PopTart's wisdom.
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby PopTart » 3 April 2022, 06:37

René wrote:I actually did compile a compatibility checklist at one point in my late teens. I turned it into a spreadsheet that automatically assigned people a compatibility score. I still have it somewhere. 5.5 was a passing grade I believe, just like on tests at the schools I went to. Dealbreakers guaranteed a fail. I somehow convinced all of GayTeenForum to complete the requisite questionnaire, and in their data went. :P
That really is so you :lol:

René wrote:We don't chose who we love and are lucky to form a sustainable connection with anyone at all. I suggest you heed PopTart's wisdom.
Very true and well said and this particular wisdom should be heeded, but uh, might want to test my other "wisdoms" you know, just to be safe 😅
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby subman sensual » 10 April 2022, 05:37

I thought that I could not be attracted to men even though I liked having sex with them.
I always found a man's cock beautiful, but never thought of finding a man attractive. Until I started
regularly seeing a man and spending time with him. I ended up finding him attractive and even loving
him. I was with him for a year and a half. I found every part of his body and face beautiful.
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby subman sensual » 10 April 2022, 05:53

Twilight66 wrote:This may sound weird (maybe not) but I do not find myself attracted to men when I'm out and about, or at work, or anytime really. I do fantasize about young smooth guys (18 to 26) and enjoy looking at nude pictures of that type of guy. And I have had a few gay experiences with male "escorts" and for the most part really enjoyed them, especially the guilty pleasure of doing something that feels "naughty". But I don't fixate on it, would never even contemplate or be interested in an emotional relationship with a guy, and am only attracted to women in real life. Also, strangely, I don't enjoy viewing gay porn between two or more guys; I prefer picture galleries of guys in my age of attraction.
Anyone else inclined this way? Or could anybody give me some feedback in regards to why I might act in this way? Thanks.


I thought the same until I was regularly with the same man. I realized that after a week of amazing sex with him, I started finding him attractive. A little while later, I realized I had very deep feelings for him. We ended up having a relationship for about 2 years.
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby soflacurious » 6 May 2022, 20:58

Munti wrote:
Ballparkdogg wrote:i like to have relationships with women, but only interested in men for sex. I am bisexual. my advice enjoy it and have fun

Can I ask you how you can maintain relationships with women if you're not sexually attracted to them? Is it difficult? To they know about that? Are you ok with being in a relationship when you don't like having sex with your partner?

I'm just asking because I might be in the same situation.


Same situation here; I'm curious about the answer to this also. Seems to be a difficult situation to be in and I've been there myself.
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Re: Not attracted to men but enjoy sex with them

Unread postby Suehiz » 15 May 2022, 03:55

I have no desire to date or be in a relationship with a man No romantic or emotional attraction
whatsoever Never even kissed a guy I like anonymous quick hookups No small talk CUM & GO
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