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Unread postby bbboo » 20 July 2022, 15:58

Hey everyone,

Sorry that I haven't introduce myself in this forum. If it's a requirement, here I go.
You guys may call me bbboo a clipping of baby boo, I'm turning 25 years old this year and I have a boyfriend who is 44 years old.

I really need a platform to talk about his behavior recently. I cannot take it anymore and I need some perspective into this as I am going crazy talking about it to myself.

Few days ago, I discovered that he has been deleting conversations and naughty chats across multiple platforms. I did this without his permission because we both know each other's phone passcode.

At first, I gave him the chance to come clean to me by asking general questions. Him being egoistic of course he denied almost every single thing. When I showed him the screenshots that I took, he look surprised and he took a moment before he could defense himself.

Saddest thing is, all he said what it was all "spur of a moment" and "I wasn't thinking straight".

Parts of the conversations include him asking for dick on instagram and body picture on WhatsApp and even requested to be hug a man on instagram. I couldn't express in words how upset I am of these situations.

I feel like I should just cut this 2 years relationship short and take my step back. what do you guys think?
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Re: Opinion please

Unread postby René » 20 July 2022, 20:56

Sounds like a lot of spurs!

I gather his behaviour is considered cheating in your relationship. Obviously he was trying to hide it. Even more obviously, you don't trust him. It does rather sound like it's over. :( :hug:
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Re: Opinion please

Unread postby bbboo » 21 July 2022, 06:38

René wrote:Sounds like a lot of spurs!

I gather his behaviour is considered cheating in your relationship. Obviously he was trying to hide it. Even more obviously, you don't trust him. It does rather sound like it's over. :( :hug:



I agree to your statement so much. I want to work on this but I am starting to feel there is no point. Last year he got caught using Grindr behind my back and he said he just want to look for "massage"
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Re: Opinion please

Unread postby René » 21 July 2022, 10:35

bbboo wrote:
René wrote:Sounds like a lot of spurs!

I gather his behaviour is considered cheating in your relationship. Obviously he was trying to hide it. Even more obviously, you don't trust him. It does rather sound like it's over. :( :hug:

I agree to your statement so much. I want to work on this but I am starting to feel there is no point. Last year he got caught using Grindr behind my back and he said he just want to look for "massage"

Yeah, it doesn't sound like he's one for a monogamous relationship, unfortunately.
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Re: Opinion please

Unread postby glückspilz » 26 July 2022, 21:03

I think you should end this relationship. His reaction is pretty dumb.

Has he said or done anything more since you confronted him?
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