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Seeking advice about a sex issue

Unread postby SectorSerpent » 2 March 2021, 13:58

Excuse the long wall of text, but I want to try and provide as much information as possible to anyone who reads this, and to avoid me getting questions easily answered for those who want to help me.

I'm a bottom, and before the pandemic, I was a really good one. I handled different sizes and such well, different temperaments in bed, and I had some extremely enjoyable times. But, as time went on and eventually as the pandemic happened, I increasingly started to do stuff with a FWB. We both trusted each other, so our sex eventually transitioned to bareback, and we enjoyed it, up until shortly after the pandemic started. While in April of last year, I was able to take him without much trouble, and experience some great things with him, in the following months there was a radical change. It became increasingly painful for me to do anal, and we eventually dropped it altogether because even a finger of his pushing in my rear wasn't bearable.

I have no idea what happened. For more overall information, he's a clean freak, so I often douched myself an hour or so before heading over. Sometimes that caused irritation on my end, but overall it often went fine. He didn't change the lubes he uses, so I don't understand why it would cause pain. And finally, he's on the smaller side, so I would have expected I'd be able to manage it better. But sadly, not.

After this started happening the pandemic tightened up restrictions in my region, and he also left for several months anyway, so I was left with my issue. I bought myself a small buttplug, 4 inches or so, and have been using it occasionally on myself with lube. There is still some pain, but ultimately, enormous pleasure when I use it. However, recently my FWB got back into town, and the restrictions loosened. We attempted anal on the past weekend but again, it failed. He could once again, barely get a finger inside of me, and I was left feeling like I have for the past several months: shameful and depressed that, as a bottom, I could not actually bottom for him.

TLDR for people: I'm a bottom whose ass has inexplicably tightened up, making it impossible to have anal sex anymore, reducing me to square one.

So, my ultimate question is to ask: any advice on why this happened, or what I can do to solve it?
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Re: Seeking advice about a sex issue

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 2 March 2021, 15:21

Ok, so stupid question, and you probably already did this, but did the guy try doing it slowly? Like, slowly put it in and let it go in and out?
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Re: Seeking advice about a sex issue

Unread postby Eryx » 2 March 2021, 16:09

I honestly think at this point you have already gone to a doctor rather than here. I have no idea what's happening but it might be psychological or physical, and a professional is your best choice to figure it out. Go to a proctologist and explain what's happening, there can be so many reasons this is happening. Like a lot.
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Re: Seeking advice about a sex issue

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 3 March 2021, 01:29

I'm with Eryx on this one. It's probably better to go to like a sex doctor or an MD maybe. Or maybe do your own research too. Just be careful on what it is you read is all I can say, if you so choose to do the research yourself.

*Sorry....edited my comment lol.
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Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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