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Unread postby maesq » 18 June 2018, 07:08

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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby lynx » 18 June 2018, 18:22

limp dick is either meeting other guys and playin pop goes his weasel on the motherfuckin downlow Or he just can't get hard because he's done so much fucking in his life that vanilla sex no longer stimulates him or he's just a bitch chump wuss half-man. his cock is ready to fall off, its so warted, spotted and used up. he still must be fucking so by time it comes to you he's no longer in the mood, getting his junk guzzled by little diseased sluts in gay spas and bookstores is the only thing that does it for him, he can only get it up for random strangers. or he's just run out of steam. anyways, he's not a man you need to be with and not even any kind of man if he can't get his dick hard, like he's seventy five years old and shit if he can't get it up long enough to have sex. you're married for chrissake to this guy how the fuck can you stand it. its like being married to an old man or a woman cuz woman. i mean, unless he's like fckin eightyfive years old and shit. you need to divorce his limp-dick ass because there is something shady as fuck going on there. bottom line, he is not satisfying your desire for sexual intimacy. get rid of this limp-dick smurf bitch. ether that or fckin force Viagra pills down his throat. or maybe just needs a little incentive., slap this cunt in the face until he mans up gets hard and hate-fucks the brakes off you.

rulenumber one, never go to a gay spa!
rulenumber two, if you do go, don't ever fckin hookup with a guy you meet at a gay spa, much less marry them!!!
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby Cuane » 18 June 2018, 22:22

3 things confuse me:

1/ how you managed to get married without having sex even once
2/ how you managed to get married in less than two years
3/ why you two don't seem to live together even though you're married
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby maesq » 19 June 2018, 00:34

Cuane wrote:3 things confuse me:

1/ how you managed to get married without having sex even once
2/ how you managed to get married in less than two years
3/ why you two don't seem to live together even though you're married


1. i did wonder how we even did that too. It was hard for me not to satisfy my sexual needs. We jerked-off to atleast 'fulfill' our sexual desire. We did oral and some foreplays.

2. Same here, he repeatedly telling me that he love me, i was the perfect one and etc.

And he keep asking me if i still a doubt of our marriagem Which i actually cant answer him directly

3. We are planning to get our own place. (I seems like he has a fear of leaving his place since he live there whole of his life)

P.S: We are asian couple, mostly we inherit asian family values that's why we had many caveats regarding our openess on our family
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby Cuane » 19 June 2018, 05:21

maesq wrote:P.S: We are asian couple, mostly we inherit asian family values that's why we had many caveats regarding our openess on our family

That explains part of it.. Do your families know you're married?

Nothing wrong with not living together before marriage, but it is a bit odd to not live together after getting married. I would imagine you should at least have some plan to move in. If you don't set a date it will never happen.

I know the feel of a low sex relationship - best advise I can give is to keep gently pushing it. Ask him if he's happy with the state of your sex life as it stands. I sometimes also have trouble talking to my boyfriend about some things, especially at the start of dating him I would be really nervous and couldn't get the words out sometimes. But as we've grown closer I've realised it's better to spit it out and deal with what follows rather than overthinking it.
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby maesq » 19 June 2018, 05:50

Cuane wrote:
maesq wrote:P.S: We are asian couple, mostly we inherit asian family values that's why we had many caveats regarding our openess on our family

That explains part of it.. Do your families know you're married?

Nothing wrong with not living together before marriage, but it is a bit odd to not live together after getting married. I would imagine you should at least have some plan to move in. If you don't set a date it will never happen.

I know the feel of a low sex relationship - best advise I can give is to keep gently pushing it. Ask him if he's happy with the state of your sex life as it stands. I sometimes also have trouble talking to my boyfriend about some things, especially at the start of dating him I would be really nervous and couldn't get the words out sometimes. But as we've grown closer I've realised it's better to spit it out and deal with what follows rather than overthinking it.


In my part, my family doesnt accept me as gay. [I just told my mom that i was dating a guy, 5-6months ago and it didnt go well].
I guess, its good on my part since i dont have to deal with physical and face to face sermons from my parents since i live 7000miles apart from them.

For my husband, He slowly coming out to his friends and his brother. But he wanted to come out of the closet to his father, but he told me, his dad cant do anything anyway.

Bottom line, my family doesnt know since i didnt have any oppotunity to talk to them anymore and He wasnt yet out from the closet.

It wasnt an issue for me if he come out of the closet or not.



My husband has low libido (same as your boyfriend, i read your thread too). and he just have those hard dick moment after he wakes up.

As for his stand on our sex life, he told me he really wants to fuck with me but he is satisfied being intimate with me (kiss&cuddle)
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby uncut7in » 27 June 2018, 13:26

I was in a sexless live-in relationship for around 26 years, somehow it seemed easier to stay together rather than untangle joint mortgages etc. Although we didn't discuss it, there was an understanding that we would both have sex with other guys. His taste was for picking up older guys outdoors, taking them home and getting fucked.

I was celibate for 2 years then realised I needed sex and plenty of it. To start with I paid for sex with young escorts (in those days an affordable £20 to fuck them). Then I dated a series of younger guys, most were one offs. Finally I met a young and had a loving monogamous relationship for over 4 years, during which time my partner died.
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby EstonianGuy123 » 27 June 2018, 14:24

My libido can swing a lot between lows and highs, often impacted by the current amount of stress I'm experiencing at work. It could be that your husband really does have a low libido and being intimate in the form of kissing and cuddling is enough.

Do keep in mind it's possible he might be insecure about it, perhaps to the extent where he's experiencing erectile dysfunction or pressure to perform, which is keeping him from sex entirely.

For cases of long term commitment another option is that he may be experiencing relationship fatigue, where sex with the same partner is becoming less exciting/thrilling over time. This is pretty common with men, which is why gay relationships become "open".
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby maesq » 27 June 2018, 15:24

EstonianGuy123 wrote:My libido can swing a lot between lows and highs, often impacted by the current amount of stress I'm experiencing at work. It could be that your husband really does have a low libido and being intimate in the form of kissing and cuddling is enough.

Do keep in mind it's possible he might be insecure about it, perhaps to the extent where he's experiencing erectile dysfunction or pressure to perform, which is keeping him from sex entirely.

For cases of long term commitment another option is that he may be experiencing relationship fatigue, where sex with the same partner is becoming less exciting/thrilling over time. This is pretty common with men, which is why gay relationships become "open".



He is really intimate in form of kissing and cuddling, it turns him on alot but he can't stay hard for long period of time (like 10-30MINS).

I guess fatigue and stress from work played role on this matter to (since i usually try to ask for sex after work).

P. S: we tried to have sex last weekend but i was the one who wasnt ready. But we ended up oral sex
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby jhonnyrockets » 28 June 2018, 06:30

Some relationships are like that. I have a crush on a guy that only does foreplay. I would never marry him, but we cuddle, kiss, and keep each other company for now

I crave sex, and if you crave sex you should have it with someone you like/love. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE, and sex plays a role in pleasure/happiness Some people (like this guy I have a crush on) does not crave sex. People who do not crave sex should be with people who do not crave sex (given that this is not an open relationship).

The only advice I can give you is that you married your best friend. Don't marry your best friend, just be his best friend. Good luck
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Re: Sexless Relationship / Marriage

Unread postby GabrielleTucker » 12 January 2021, 07:38

Sometimes it's hard to maintain a relationship without sex. It often happens that sex is what holds a relationship together. In my case, after a year of living together, our sex became monotonous, as we have already tried everything that is possible. I started to see signs that the relationship is coming to an end, as our lives were already full of problems and misunderstandings. It can be hard to find a partner with whom you can live your life together. In my understanding, this can even be called the meaning of life because what can be more important than the people you love, and finding them is a big task.
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