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Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby gayboy2121 » 10 March 2019, 03:06

Hello!

First post here. A little bit about myself, my name’s Ray, I’m 21, studying film production. Single.
So I’m definitely nervous about discussing all of this, It’s an insecurity I’ve had for the longest time and I’m finding it extremely hard to get over it. For the longest time I remember my body being different from other guys and at a really young age I noticed I had a small dick. This issue became really prominent during my early teenage years I would say, and truthfully I thought I would get over it but I never did. At this point, I’m not even sure if it’s actually small or if my mind is lying to me, but regardless I don’t think this matter considering any kind of reassurance about my size wouldn’t help. It's more the girth than anything else, I find the length alright but it just looks small when I look in the mirror. I’m now 21 and I’ve never had sex with a guy before, meaning anal sex. I can’t imagine showing my body to any guy, specifically because of my penis. It’s so hard for me to grasp the fact that anybody could ever want to have sex with me or eventually love me. Somehow I know that it’s possible, I know deep down that there’s somebody for everyone. But whenever I get close to a guy, which I have been going on dates, I ghost because I can’t handle how hurt I’ll get once they make a comment or reject me right away. This is essentially stupid because I’ve never actually been rejected for it before because I’ve never shown it to anybody. I’ve blown guys before, but anything that wouldn’t require taking my pants off pretty much. Another thing is how hard it is to just be so open about my virginity at 21, I mean it’s hard enough for me to admit it to myself. It’s such an exhausting insecurity that I deal with everyday, and I literally feel like I’m gonna just die alone. Nobody knows about this, not my friends or family. I do think this insecurity is rooted in things I've heard over the years about big penises being favoured by absolutely everyone, it was always shoved in my face and I think over the years it just really affected me. But I am ready to do anything to love myself. I practice self-love everyday and it does really help, and I want to be able to love myself first, yet it seems to be the most difficult challenge in my life right now.
Do you guys have any tips or anything at all on what to do about this? Have you heard of anyone that’s experienced the same thing? I don’t know how to take the first steps or how to approach a boy. Should I tell them about how I feel about my body or is this something I should keep to myself? I do feel very alone in this experience. Anything helps.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Victor_Laszlo » 10 March 2019, 13:58

I dont think most guys care how big another guy is. So i think your way over thinking this. I've been with guys of various sizes and have never cared about size.
Even dated a guy with a micro penis before. :lol:

As far as the virgin thing. Same thing i honestly dont think most guys care about experience. Some guys even prefer a virgin.

For some reason society has guys thinking that penis' need to be huge and everyone needs to lose their virginity when a teenager. And there just not true.

Your just way over thinking things. And have psyched yourself out. You'll become more comfortable with yourself as you get more experience. Just try and relax til then.

You dont need to say anything about your insecurities about your body. Maybe explain that you dont have much experience just so you can take things slow. But there is nothing wrong with you i can say that.

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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Eryx » 11 March 2019, 16:08

I agree with Victor. I've never cared about penis size with any of my partners, and my current partner is below average but very good at what he does, so I never really missed a bigger dick while with him. Plus, big dicks also present problems, because they can often hurt and feel uncomfortable.

If you are willing to bottom and enjoy it after trying, dick size won't really matter as you'll only have to use it to masturbate during sex. If you want to be versatile or a top, maybe some people will reject you on account of your dick, but I imagine that to happen really rarely and again, if you become good at it, then your girth won't matter.

As for your virginity, loads of guys love that trait. If you don't care about making it special, you get to have some fun with it because your partner won't really expect you to take any leads and they'll be extra careful to make you enjoy it. And the first time isn't really all that movies make it out to be. I barely remember mine and I'm not scarred because of that.

Go out there and get yourself out of your comfort zone, it's the best way to get over this.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby SweetBoy2312 » 12 March 2019, 21:57

At least you have a penis. I had a penectomy. But I still get erections and have orgasms :bowdown:
Just be grateful for what you have because life is short. Also, like some guys here said...penis size is not important. I mean think about it when you have an anal orgasm it's a prostate orgasm. It happens because the prostate is stimulated. The prostate is stimulated as soon as you enter the anus. You can have orgasms from just a finger. So a large penis isn't needed to satisfy.

And yes virginity is a turn on..and you are still super young. If you want to lose your virginity go to a bathhouse lol you will get offers. Just be safe please. Only safe sex. You can always say you've been with girls but not with guys if you want to feel less nervous during your first time. That's pretty common. Men come out at different ages.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby DeclanMA » 12 March 2019, 22:18

If it's that bad, try a sex change.
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