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Unread postby gayboy2121 » 10 March 2019, 03:06

Hello!

First post here. A little bit about myself, my name’s Ray, I’m 21, studying film production. Single.
So I’m definitely nervous about discussing all of this, It’s an insecurity I’ve had for the longest time and I’m finding it extremely hard to get over it. For the longest time I remember my body being different from other guys and at a really young age I noticed I had a small dick. This issue became really prominent during my early teenage years I would say, and truthfully I thought I would get over it but I never did. At this point, I’m not even sure if it’s actually small or if my mind is lying to me, but regardless I don’t think this matter considering any kind of reassurance about my size wouldn’t help. It's more the girth than anything else, I find the length alright but it just looks small when I look in the mirror. I’m now 21 and I’ve never had sex with a guy before, meaning anal sex. I can’t imagine showing my body to any guy, specifically because of my penis. It’s so hard for me to grasp the fact that anybody could ever want to have sex with me or eventually love me. Somehow I know that it’s possible, I know deep down that there’s somebody for everyone. But whenever I get close to a guy, which I have been going on dates, I ghost because I can’t handle how hurt I’ll get once they make a comment or reject me right away. This is essentially stupid because I’ve never actually been rejected for it before because I’ve never shown it to anybody. I’ve blown guys before, but anything that wouldn’t require taking my pants off pretty much. Another thing is how hard it is to just be so open about my virginity at 21, I mean it’s hard enough for me to admit it to myself. It’s such an exhausting insecurity that I deal with everyday, and I literally feel like I’m gonna just die alone. Nobody knows about this, not my friends or family. I do think this insecurity is rooted in things I've heard over the years about big penises being favoured by absolutely everyone, it was always shoved in my face and I think over the years it just really affected me. But I am ready to do anything to love myself. I practice self-love everyday and it does really help, and I want to be able to love myself first, yet it seems to be the most difficult challenge in my life right now.
Do you guys have any tips or anything at all on what to do about this? Have you heard of anyone that’s experienced the same thing? I don’t know how to take the first steps or how to approach a boy. Should I tell them about how I feel about my body or is this something I should keep to myself? I do feel very alone in this experience. Anything helps.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Victor_Laszlo » 10 March 2019, 13:58

I dont think most guys care how big another guy is. So i think your way over thinking this. I've been with guys of various sizes and have never cared about size.
Even dated a guy with a micro penis before. :lol:

As far as the virgin thing. Same thing i honestly dont think most guys care about experience. Some guys even prefer a virgin.

For some reason society has guys thinking that penis' need to be huge and everyone needs to lose their virginity when a teenager. And there just not true.

Your just way over thinking things. And have psyched yourself out. You'll become more comfortable with yourself as you get more experience. Just try and relax til then.

You dont need to say anything about your insecurities about your body. Maybe explain that you dont have much experience just so you can take things slow. But there is nothing wrong with you i can say that.

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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Eryx » 11 March 2019, 16:08

I agree with Victor. I've never cared about penis size with any of my partners, and my current partner is below average but very good at what he does, so I never really missed a bigger dick while with him. Plus, big dicks also present problems, because they can often hurt and feel uncomfortable.

If you are willing to bottom and enjoy it after trying, dick size won't really matter as you'll only have to use it to masturbate during sex. If you want to be versatile or a top, maybe some people will reject you on account of your dick, but I imagine that to happen really rarely and again, if you become good at it, then your girth won't matter.

As for your virginity, loads of guys love that trait. If you don't care about making it special, you get to have some fun with it because your partner won't really expect you to take any leads and they'll be extra careful to make you enjoy it. And the first time isn't really all that movies make it out to be. I barely remember mine and I'm not scarred because of that.

Go out there and get yourself out of your comfort zone, it's the best way to get over this.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby SweetBoy2312 » 12 March 2019, 21:57

At least you have a penis. I had a penectomy. But I still get erections and have orgasms :bowdown:
Just be grateful for what you have because life is short. Also, like some guys here said...penis size is not important. I mean think about it when you have an anal orgasm it's a prostate orgasm. It happens because the prostate is stimulated. The prostate is stimulated as soon as you enter the anus. You can have orgasms from just a finger. So a large penis isn't needed to satisfy.

And yes virginity is a turn on..and you are still super young. If you want to lose your virginity go to a bathhouse lol you will get offers. Just be safe please. Only safe sex. You can always say you've been with girls but not with guys if you want to feel less nervous during your first time. That's pretty common. Men come out at different ages.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby DeclanMA » 12 March 2019, 22:18

If it's that bad, try a sex change.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby grayarea1899 » 5 April 2019, 21:21

Don’t worry about it. I even posted on here about how big cocks are really not that comfortable might look nice.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby coxDan484 » 5 April 2019, 22:06

I think that penis size insecurity isn't that uncommon these days, especially since every porn star you see sports an absolute weapon.
I used to be the same, but the truth is that I've not had complaints from any guy OR girl about size. Bit of a cliche but it really is how you use it!
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 7 April 2019, 21:38

Sorry but size does matter...

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By that I mean if you have a HUGE cock, I'd have to be REALLY in the mood because most of the time it's just uncomfortable and unpleasant. If I had a boyfriend with a huge member and he didn't like bottoming, we wouldn't be having a lot of anal sex and if that was a problem it probably wouldn't last very long, it is what it is.

So... average and even smaller cocks for the win really. I'd rather be with a guy who can fuck me whenever we want instead of one who leaves my ass needing a week to recover after each session.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Marmaduke » 7 April 2019, 22:22

Size does matter, be it bigger or smaller, but it’s actually not relevant at all to your problem in your current circumstance. Not really. It’s a constant factor regardless of outcome in a broader situation that needs to change.

You’re way to in your head about it. Let’s step back and look at the options on the table;

Option 1 - You continue living your life terrified of someone rejecting you for your dick, so you never expose yourself to the risk - please pardon the pun, couldn’t resist it. Do you think that fear is just gonna go away with time? Or the curiosity? Or the regret? It isn’t. It’s just gonna become a bigger and bigger issue.

Option 2 - This is the most likely option by the way, by an order of magnitude. You open yourself to opportunity, you work through your trepidation and you just see where things go. Whether you’re looking for something with strings or without, you don’t let your dick stand in the way of you getting involved. This process will lead to you facing rejection. That’s the reality of modern dating, especially in this app-based world of romance where your entire interaction with someone has been boiled down to as little as an abrupt swipe left or right. Rejection happens. We all face it and we all chalk that rejection up to our biggest insecurities. You’re not the only one that’s scared of letting someone else see something about themselves. I know I am. You have to work through it, and when you do you’ll start finding the guys that won’t reject you.

Option 3 - Much the same as above, but worst comes to worst and you never find anybody. At least you’re not sitting there stewing on a “what if?” You tried and you kept trying. It’s better than never having tried and wondering forever.

Go out and let yourself be open to opportunity. I’m sure your dick is fine anyway.

Edit; oh, wait, this thread is hella old. Well here’s hoping you ever come back.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby René » 8 April 2019, 06:11

Marmaduke wrote:Edit; oh, wait, this thread is hella old. Well here’s hoping you ever come back.

Thanks to the success of my email-everyone-when-a-thread-they-posted-(in)-gets-a-reply madness, gayboy2121 has indeed returned to us after all this time and seen your post! :awesome:
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby greenboysbibinje » 11 April 2019, 09:15

Ja sam mali miksi i imam mali penis
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby René » 11 April 2019, 09:35

greenboysbibinje wrote:Ja sam mali miksi i imam mali penis

Jeste li razmotrili gore navedeni savjet?
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby greenboysbibinje » 11 April 2019, 17:28

René wrote:
greenboysbibinje wrote:Ja sam mali miksi i imam mali penis

Jeste li razmotrili gore navedeni savjet?



A jesan brate ali bokte jeba al ovi moji iz mista imaju duplo veci penis od mene :flame:
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby René » 11 April 2019, 19:38

greenboysbibinje wrote:
René wrote:
greenboysbibinje wrote:Ja sam mali miksi i imam mali penis

Jeste li razmotrili gore navedeni savjet?

A jesan brate ali bokte jeba al ovi moji iz mista imaju duplo veci penis od mene :flame:

Veličina je važna, bila ona veća ili manja, ali zapravo nije relevantna za vaš problem u trenutnim okolnostima. Ne baš. To je stalan faktor bez obzira na ishod u široj situaciji koja se mora promijeniti.

Vi ste na putu da u svojoj glavi o tome. Vratimo se natrag i pogledamo opcije na stolu;

Opcija 1 - Nastavite živjeti svoj život prestravljen time da vas netko odbaci zbog vašeg kurca, tako da se nikada ne izlažete riziku - molim vas, oprostite na dosjetki, ne biste mogli odoljeti. Mislite li da će strah jednostavno nestati s vremenom? Ili radoznalost? Ili žaljenje? Nije. To će postati samo veće i veće pitanje.

Opcija 2 - To je najvjerojatnije opcija, za red veličine. Otvorite se za priliku, radite kroz strah i samo vidite gdje stvari idu. Bez obzira tražite li nešto s nizovima ili bez, ne dopustite da vam kurac stoji na putu da se uključite. Ovaj proces će vas dovesti do odbijanja. To je stvarnost modernog datiranja, osobito u ovom romantičnom svijetu baziranom na aplikacijama, gdje je cijela vaša interakcija s nekim svodila se na onoliko malo koliko je naglo povlačenje ulijevo ili udesno. Događa se odbijanje. Svi smo suočeni s tim i svi mi to odbacujemo do najvećih nesigurnosti. Niste jedini koji se boji da netko drugi vidi nešto o sebi. Znam da jesam. Morate proći kroz to, i kada to učinite, početi ćete pronaći momke koji vas neće odbiti.

Opcija 3 - Dosta isto kao gore, ali najgore dolazi do najgoreg i nikada ne nalazite nikoga. Barem ne sjediš tamo i gurneš se na "što ako?" Pokušao si i stalno si pokušavao. Bolje je nego nikad ne pokušati i pitati se zauvijek.

Izađite i dopustite da budete otvoreni za priliku. Siguran sam da je tvoj kurac ionako u redu.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 11 April 2019, 20:29

Speak English. This is America. :oface:
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby René » 11 April 2019, 20:32

Ne obraćajte pažnju na poolerboy0077. Ima i mali penis.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Derek » 11 April 2019, 23:30

Am I having a stroke or has René's Dutch gotten really rusty?
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby jimjammin » 13 April 2019, 18:24

Hi gayboy2121,
Do not worry about your penis size. The only guys who blatantly want Big dicks, are guys you really don’t want to be with anyway. Normal guys do not care about penis size. Yes, we all joke about big dicks and what not, but in truth, as long as you have one that is all that matters.
Me personally, I LOVE a hot guy with an average to below average penis size, in length, and in regards to girth, I LOVE guys with slender cocks. I am thick, so I like it if the guy I am with is the opposite.
Let your hair down and have fun.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby René » 13 April 2019, 19:26

Derek wrote:Am I having a stroke or has René's Dutch gotten really rusty?

You know what they say, the longer you stay away from the motherland, the more it turns into Croatian :(
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby jimjammin » 13 April 2019, 21:08

Huh?
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