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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby dexzar » 19 April 2019, 13:56

Hey gayboy, hope you get around to reading this because I had/have the exact same problem and am going to tell you how I dealt/am dealing with it. I suffered from body image issues for a very long time because of my penis size. Like yours mine was ok ish with length however quite thin girth wise and it made me become extremely introverted with my body and sexuality. It is actually very ironic (with some weird déjà uu) that when i was 21 (about 8 years ago) i posted on some site about penis size issues and how it made me uncomfortable and I got a response from someone that literally changed my life.

They told me "if you think you are strong enough to put yourself out there knowing there is a possibility of a demeaning comment or hurtful rejection and you can just move on from it then you will find someone amazing if you are strong and patient"

With some new found confidence from some stranger i put myself out there.... in secret because I was not out of the closet but was still trying to look for a relationship. I dont think you need my whole life story so i will try and shorten it up

I met a guy who I liked and who like me and I lost my virginity at 21. Now we didn't stay together for too long but the fact that I had sex with another man, who said absolutely nothing about my penis size was a great confidence booster. Shortly after we split off I finally came out to everyone and began my real search for someone I could spend the rest of my life with. Long story short... I FOUND HIM! I met my fiance 6 years ago and have never been so happy. When we were in the new couple stages before sex I was comfortable enough with him to tell him my size issue and how I am very self conscious. In a weird twist he opened up to me about his size issue and how he had the same problem... different because he is huge down there but still it made him feel the same way I was feeling. Now we joke around and say with his oversized penis and my undersized penis we even each other out.

Anyways this is getting long, the whole point of the story is when you find someone that matters to you and they care about you size wont be a factor. Plus there are tonnes of sex toys for fun!

And now for the last part. If you noticed how I wrote the very first part in past and present tense, that was on purpose. I still have size issues that are an internal battle, however, I am completely comfortable being naked around my fiance, even its cold and I am smaller then normal. Once you find the right person then no body image issues will matter.

I really hope that you get around to reading this (i made this account just so i could respond to your post) because I know exactly what you are going through and I can tell you that if you are willing to take a chance, your world could get SOOOOO much better.

PS as a weird tribute to the stranger that helped me all those years ago I try and make all my usernames (for personal things) "dexzar" because that was their username.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Italiangold » 29 September 2019, 07:24

The thing is like penis cant b modified...u knw wht i have stopped dating...stopped masturbating...almosy living a life like a zombie with no fun
I was into depression when politely 2 of my partners said i have small penis.. I felt rage anger and what not...so i thought to myself...i should stop and be single in my lofe instead of taking sht from others
But being alone also doesnt help..feelings inside are raw...but i promised unless i increaae my dick i wont touch no body...so if anyone knows any solution to this help me out...or i will continue the path of lone wolf
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Eryx » 29 September 2019, 15:38

That's not healthy, Italiangold. We're a social species, almost all of us (except maybe for asexual people) need bonding and to be with other people. The penis size doesn't matter, if it did, male transexuals wouldn't ever have sex, and they do!

Have you considered being a bottom for someone? Then your size won't make a difference in sex. There are other things you can do, too, that are just as hot as fucking. If someone criticizes you when they meet you because of your penis size, there's something wrong with them, not with you.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby PandaBoo » 29 September 2019, 16:29

Capt._Trips wrote:Even dated a guy with a micro penis before. :lol:
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...What is so highly amusing about having a small penis? This is why people feel insecure in the first place.
Please note the message above was written by a troll who has since been banned.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Jmf » 14 April 2021, 15:35

I happen to really like small dicks, but I have a different take on my own smaller dick. I’m just under 5” erect and less than 2” soft. Yes I was (and still in some ways) self conscious about it. Being a top it also brings added pressure. However in certain ways I think it may also have saved me from becoming a complete asshole. Many years ago after a failed relationship I was so devastated that I went through a phase of being unable and didn’t want to have a stable relationship. Also in order to numb the pain I decided that the only way was to have a lot of casual sex. I am (supposedly) relatively attractive (apparently..,,,never though so but that’s another story) so finding sex with cute partners wasn’t an issue. Although I never intended to hurt anyone but I invariably did. Looking back the only reason stopping me from going too crazy and being too much of an asshole was the simple fact I was self conscious about my dick size. I know it doesn’t really quite make sense but had i had a massive dick it would probably have given me a greater arrogance and attitude. The fact I felt I definitely wasn’t ‘perfect’ or a ‘dream partner’ by any standard probably meant deep down I knew I had to somehow balance my lack with some element of a decent personality. I was irresponsible in the sense I brought endless people into my bed purely for the purpose of distracting from my own pain but my lack in penis size also in some strange abstract way stopped me from being totally callous to them.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby lufia » 22 April 2021, 17:38

I'm not gigantic or anything, and I was once insecure about it. Before I acknowledged my sexuality, I tried to force myself to be straight. I never had any problem bringing a woman to orgasm. I never had a one night stand, and they all came back for more, so it wasn't an issue for any of them. As a total bottom now, my personal size isn't an issue for me since I don't view my penis as my primary sexual organ anymore. As for myself, I highly prefer an average or below average sized guy that knows what he is doing. When a guy is too large, I don't enjoy it nearly as much. In closing, size doesn't matter. If you are attentive to your partner and respond to their needs, they will get off and will not care about your penis size. Besides, according to studies, the average penis size for a man is 4-6 inches. Those guys you see in porn videos are nothing like what you are likely to encounter in day to day life. Don't worry about it.
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Re: Small Penis Insecurity

Unread postby Jmf » 22 April 2021, 18:41

Talking about porn ....years ago I knew some producers of porn.... there was a specific reason for using actors with a big dick.....most people watch porn on a small screen.... a bigger dick just meant it was more visible on screen
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