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Unread postby MisterD. » 9 September 2020, 07:04

Hi folks. I'm brand spanking new here just tonight so be patient with me....

I've had somewhat of a quandary about something for some time...
Because I really dont have anyone I can ask, I began browsing online for info relating to or somewhere I could ask people - hence how I ran across this forum. So , I thought what the heck - just join and ask lol...

So here goes.

First, at the sake of boring anyone, a little backstory on me...

I'm a straight guy, divorced after a bad marriage (years ago). When she and I divorced I kind of went wild lol...I tried most all of the fantasies I had, including being with a man.
I had a gay buddy that had at one point said 'well if you ever want to try anything just tell me'.
So one night I went to his place, we had a few beers...well I don't guess I need to give all the details lol... but yeah, we had a fun night. It was great.
We were already buddies and so then we kind of turned into f*ck buddies I guess you'd say. We were both single so it worked out. We ended up having sex frequently.

Eventually I remarried.
When my new wife and I met we were brutally honest with each other, including our pasts. So she knows I've been with a man before her years ago.

Weve been together a long time now and she still teases me about it all the time when we crack on each other lol. But point being that she mentions it - a LOT.
Also, sex seems to be a truth serum for her - she says things during sex (dirty talk) that she wouldnt normally say.

...So she had always had a fantasy she wanted to try - me and another guy.
She knew I'd done his years ago and that I liked it and was ok with it so eventually we worked it out with a friend of ours.
So at one point (here I go blushing) when we three were having a threesome, knowing I'd been with a guy, she shocked me when she took me out of her mouth and put me in his. The look on her face was probably similar to mine lol. It was obvious it drove her crazy. They ended up taking turns.
We've had several threesomes with this friend of ours and little things have happened like that, or some hand play etc. many times.
Now most of the time when we have sex she mentions it - all the fun we've had with all this Ive mentioned - our friend, my old buddy and me, etc... She's even said during sex that she wants (I cant believe I'm saying this lol) that she wants to see me "get railed" while I'm doing her. (Am I allowed to say that in here? If not I'm sorry Admin). ..on top of always talking about me having been with a man...

So my quandary is this....what in the world is in her head?!.. Are all her fantasies , comments and teasing just that? Just "sexy talk" ..or does she genuinely like it and want more? Does she really want to see me do more with a man?....

...I'm torn on how to assess this. Lately she's even looked at strap ons, double headers etc.. ..even tonight as we watched porn she made some comments....
....so.....at this point I dont even know what to think......

Any ideas?...is her talk just sexy talk or is she hinting? And if she IS being genuine, how do I even begin to approach having sex with a man in front of or with her?....

Sorry for the long winded post but I have no one to ask.
Thanks folks.
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Re: Suggestions/opinions...

Unread postby René » 9 September 2020, 10:14

I believe what you describe on the part of your wife is some form of what is known as a cuck or cuckold fetish.

You may want to read more about this phenomenon and possibly discuss it with your wife, including whether this seems like her or if she's just fantasising and not meaning for it to become a reality.

MisterD. wrote:She's even said during sex that she wants (I cant believe I'm saying this lol) that she wants to see me "get railed" while I'm doing her. (Am I allowed to say that in here? If not I'm sorry Admin).

We get such polite new members nowadays, always worrying if they're being too explicit and violating the rules. :3

As long as you're not deliberately offending anyone, you're probably fine. There's no rule against talking openly about sex. :)
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Unread postby Jasper1 » 10 September 2020, 17:55

We get such polite new members nowadays, always worrying if they're being too explicit and violating the rules. :3

As long as you're not deliberately offending anyone, you're probably fine. There's no rule against talking openly about sex. :)

He obviously has not read some of the other posts on here :D
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Unread postby Deeper69 » 15 September 2020, 17:46

You’re a very lucky man. I say go for it next time she brings it up and then let her take the lead
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Unread postby MisterD. » 16 September 2020, 05:07

That's kind of what I've been thinking. Actually I've already thrown it out there. She teases me all the time about it as I said..and the other night she was browsing toys online and asked me what I thought about a few, including for me (she even suggested butt plugs which surprised me). She said we should order some toys and to mark some in the order basket that I want. So ...I thought 'here goes'....so I listed a strap on and a double header lol.
She raised her eyebrows and said "hmm.." lol. I giggled and said 'what? - I want you to do me with a strap on". I felt better throwing it out there. I mean she knows I've been with men, she mentions it all the time, shes fantasized about during sex - what the heck did I have to lose?
She half grinned and said "I'm not sure I could do it - go through the motions I mean. It'd feel funny". I assured her shed be fine and probably enjoy it (because it has a 2nd dildo on the inside of the strap for her at the same time).
Then she said "hmm, a double headed dildo?" with a grin. I said "yeah. Ass to ass. We can do each other together" lol. ..I then sent her an article I found about wives pegging husbands and told her to read it sometime. I said point blank "I want you to do me sometime" as I walked away lol.
So...who knows. At least now she knows what I want. Seems to be a prelude to what she talks about so i guess we shall see what happens....
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Unread postby Deeper69 » 16 September 2020, 13:17

Sounds like she really wants this also. The jockeying that she is doing now is just posturing so that she doesn’t feel guilty. But rest assured, if she has gone this far with thing thing and is still chatty about it, then she really is on board and wanting to try it. Slow and steady and give her the chance to lead the show at times.
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