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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 1 October 2021, 20:17



I've always been the bottom with my partner, and always tried to be as reasonably clean as possible back there. One of my biggest fears is if their was an fecal matter related accident, even if its with him and we are comfortable together.

Anyway, for the past month he has taken to licking my hole at anytime during sex, which putting it as gently as possible, is icky and gross to me. I don't hate the feeling when he's doing it but I kiss those lips.

No matter how I rationalize it being ok, I just feel kind of gross and not turned on kissing him anymore.

Am I being irrational?
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Re: Warning, this is kind of a gross topic

Unread postby Eryx » 1 October 2021, 21:32

I don't think you're being irrational, my boyfriend loves rimming as well but I don't think it's anything special and I don't like the taste in his mouth afterwards (even if it's pristine clean). It's okay that you don't like it imo. To each their own.
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Re: Warning, this is kind of a gross topic

Unread postby PopTart » 1 October 2021, 21:49

Yeah, it doesn't have to be a problem.

Just ask yourself where the dislike comes from. Is it because you have hangups about hygiene? Such hang ups aren't entirely irrational, but as gay men, try though we might, we must resign ourselves to the fact that, someimes, shit happens.

Learning to accept that reality and be okay with it, while not being essential, might make the way you feel about kissing your boyfriend post analingus, change. Ofcourse it might not, but why waste a chance to overcome an anxiety?

There are alot of guys afterall, who love ass to mouth, for example. You might too, but have that particular kink buried beneath a montain of shame over what comes out of your ass.

The fact is, you won't know until you get to the root of why you don't like it and decide for yourself if the reasons are ones you want to overcome or accept for what they are.

There is no wrong answer here. Just the right one for you.

As an aside, I want to highlight, that many heterosexual men, refuse to kiss a woman who has sucked their cock or in whose mouth they have cum. I often believe that to be rooted in shame and anxiety over perceptions of masculinity. Ofcourse, some guys might just think it's nasty. But it is for this reason I suggest asking yourself, if shame is the source of your feelings here. Shame is never a good thing.
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