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what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby adda100 » 21 August 2020, 12:42

Hi everybody,

I'd be curious to know what you feel when you are getting fucked, especially the most pleasurable feelings. Could you describe them for me?
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby René » 21 August 2020, 13:35

For me, it's very physically pleasurable in a way I find hard to describe, but a lot of it is a mental thing about submission, knowing a guy is having his way with me and getting pleasure out of "using" my body I guess. A lot of it is also an emotional connection thing, bonding with a guy, kind of becoming one, a physical expression of love, and knowing I have something of his left inside me afterwards is really nice (and hot) and makes me feel very close to him. :3

It's always been associated with building or being in a relationship for me. I've never had sex with a guy I didn't have feelings for or wasn't or didn't end up in a relationship with. (I only have sex with my husband and our boyfriend and never need to use condoms.)
I suppose it must be a little different in other contexts, but the only time I tried to have what was meant to be casual sex with a guy, we'd already started developing feelings for each other by the time we were actually doing it. :P :keke:
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 22 August 2020, 00:11

The literal physical feeling has a quality I can't explain, and I'm always slightly forgetful about how it feels when I'm not having sex even after years of being sexually active. Cumming whilst being fucked good is extremely pleasurable to me, I get an intense headrush in the moment and then remain very light-headed and calm for a good few hours after experiencing that.

I'm not a very submissive bottom. I can be if I'm in the right mood, but I personally wouldn't be compatible with an extremely dom top who wanted 100% control and everything his way in bed.

If you've got a rough top though it's just painful. I don't mean "rough" in a good way, I mean a guy who doesn't use enough lube (I often need a lot), and who just shoves it straight in hard and fast without building up to the hard fucking. I find whether it hurts has little/nothing to do with size, it's more to do with not preparing properly and leading into it slowly.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby rogonandi » 22 August 2020, 03:36

When I’m in the mood for it, it’s fantastic. It gives the orgasm an extra ingredient you don’t get from topping. :thumbsup:
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby adda100 » 22 August 2020, 09:59

Thanks guys, your descriptions are very interesting. The reason why I asked the question is because I have often been unable to fully enjoy receptive anal sex, I have always found it difficult, although I consider it to be by far the most exciting sexual practice (psychologically). But when I do enjoy it, it's incredibly pleasurable.

I'd like to hear more stories, please feel free to describe your sensations.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby René » 22 August 2020, 16:54

adda100 wrote:Thanks guys, your descriptions are very interesting. The reason why I asked the question is because I have often been unable to fully enjoy receptive anal sex, I have always found it difficult, although I consider it to be by far the most exciting sexual practice (psychologically). But when I do enjoy it, it's incredibly pleasurable.

In my experience, position can make all the difference between a very unpleasant experience and a very nice one. Have you tried a bunch of different ones to see which one(s) work(s) best for you?
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby jake.wriley » 22 August 2020, 17:27

I agree with pretty much all the comments! It's an incredible feeling physically, but the type of pleasure is hard to describe. For me, the best part of bottoming is the psychological component. If it's casual sex, the thought of having another guy use me in that way for his pleasure sends me through the roof. If it's with a romantic partner, someone for whom I have feelings, our emotional intimacy manifesting as him being inside me is just about the sexist thing I've ever experienced mentally.

When I first started having sex, I was exclusively a top for a variety of reasons. One of these reasons was that I could never enjoy physical feeling of bottoming. It felt so foreign, awkward, and uncomfortable. Hearing other bottoms describe how amazing it was, I wanted to know what that was like, so I bought some toys and started playing around that way. I started with a small dildo and a set of plugs; the plugs in particular helped me get used to the feeling of having something inside me like that, helped me get to know my anatomy a bit better and know how long it took me to loosen up, how much I could have inserted, etc. After that, when I started taking the real thing, I started to experience that amazing feeling so many bottoms had described. Since then, I almost always bottom now. Again, I'm a bottom for casual sex (vers in dating relationships) mostly because of the psychological aspect and less for the physical sensation, but playing around with myself to get used to the feeling allowed me to start experiencing this with other men more comfortably.

Long story short, if you still find bottoming uncomfortable, I would highly recommend toys, especially plugs. Plugs are designed to stay inside without having to hold it in, so you can leave it in you for a while and really get used to that feeling. Just don't leave it in for hours; that's not necessarily safe.

I agree 100% with René's post about positions. For me, some positions are kind of uncomfortable while others leave me weak in the knees afterwards (in a very, very good way ;P). I was surprised at how much the sensation changes with position. Even just a variety of simple positions; I'm not talking about that crazy, stand-on-your head fucking you see in some vids haha. Even going between missionary and doggie can change things a lot depending on the shape of things.

For me, the most intense physical feeling as a bottom is when I'm face-down ass-up. Others don't like it; I love it. Just an example that positions can change the feeling a lot, and a lot of it depends on you and the other guy. I would definitely recommend trying out a variety of positions to find what you like.

Best of luck to ya :P
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby weedan » 22 August 2020, 22:11

Well for me there is feeling of pleasure, that comes from having a guy inside you. But there is also the psychological aspect of giving your self to another guy for him to use you as he wants.
But remember just because some of us love being a bottom does not mean you will. But you will find out what fulfils you, and you might need to try it a few times to get there. I hope you get there in the end, but remember if its not enjoyable change it and try something else.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby adda100 » 23 August 2020, 09:39

Thanks guys for the very interesting opinions and stories. I have indeed tried with a variety of dildos, and have realized that it only works if I'm super horny, otherwise I feel very little. As far as real cocks go, the situation is a little more complicated. My boyfriend doesn't like anal sex, so I don't do it with him (and I don't want to force him to do things he doesn't like.. I love him the way he is, sex is definitely not the number one priority in my life), but we have a.. let's say "partially" open relationship, we allow each other to have sex with others as long as it's not frequent, so I could try with others, but finding someone I like is not easy at all, you need chemistry. I usually don't enjoy casual sex much (though I wish I was able to) as it feels too impersonal.

By the way, I tried a new double dildo last night (a DP-like thing). I was afraid it was not going to fit into my anus, but it did fit very well.. I almost got a hands-free orgasm, something I had not experienced for a long time. It was gorgeous. DP must be great (but again, finding two guys I like is anything but easy!)
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby PopTart » 23 August 2020, 21:54

I'll agree on the positions thing too.

I get alot of enjoyment from a guy going in from behind, doggie style for example, it seems to hit all the right places, but i find riding ontop to be super uncomfortable, I almost never get good feelings squating on a dick or riding his dick.

Face to face missionary can work, but technique and skill play a more vital role then, i often have to direct someone more or the experience can be less pleasurable.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby René » 24 August 2020, 18:21

jake.wriley wrote:I agree 100% with René's post about positions. For me, some positions are kind of uncomfortable while others leave me weak in the knees afterwards (in a very, very good way ;P). I was surprised at how much the sensation changes with position. Even just a variety of simple positions; I'm not talking about that crazy, stand-on-your head fucking you see in some vids haha. Even going between missionary and doggie can change things a lot depending on the shape of things.

For me, the most intense physical feeling as a bottom is when I'm face-down ass-up. Others don't like it; I love it. Just an example that positions can change the feeling a lot, and a lot of it depends on you and the other guy. I would definitely recommend trying out a variety of positions to find what you like.

I agree, that position feels particularly intense.

Bent over the edge of the bed is similar.

I've found, though, that even if a position feels good, I can't necessarily start out in it. I generally have to be entered initially by lowering myself on top of a guy or carefully pushing back onto him in the doggy-style position, otherwise it feels quite unpleasant. After that, once he's been fully in at least once, we can change to any other position. :D
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby dragonfire » 24 August 2020, 20:38

As a bottom it feels pretty good :P

I usually prefer riding, that way I have a say in controlling the pace and depth. Missionary can be pretty good too although sometimes I find that a little harder when gravity isn't so much on my side.

I don't have much experience of doggy style although the experience I do have of it was pretty pleasurable. I found there was some flexibility there, more for me than missionary, and the idea of being able to learn back back into my partner or plop down on all fours or anything in between appeals to me.

But whatever position I take, being able to play with myself a little too can give the experience an extra edge and for me can be the difference between a slightly uncomfortable entry and a good time. And the feeling of cumming while bottoming is something you gotta experience to believe, in my opinion anyway :gay:
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby MichaelWSF » 25 September 2020, 14:58

For me bottoming feels like intense passion, heavenly, amazing, and at times so great that I feel I'm in a trance. That being said, it can also be painful, but that just comes with the territory of bottoming and having a well-endowed husband.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby Scobri » 26 December 2020, 03:10

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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby DY4real » 29 December 2020, 00:18

Bottoming is the only form of sex that I feel fully satisfied! The feeling of a man using you for his pleasure and the feeling of being stretched and fucked deep nothing gets me harder or cum faster! Once I embraced being a 100% bottom I was able to enjoy it fully!
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 29 December 2020, 02:43

I never enjoyed a penis inside me (or anything else) inside me. I used to think it was required -- total tops had to be hung. It is why for ages, I thought I must really be screwed up -- desiring to be so close to a man, yet having no interest in his penis being inside me. Then I decided why am I doing something I NEVER liked especially in the days of AIDS back then. So I stopped it, and embraced being a top.

Top doesn't make me more of a man, nor less gay. It just my nature. When I see an attractive man, I have always first noticed his face (to kiss), his arms/chest/belly to snuggle, his legs to intertwine with mine, and his ass to be inside of. The orgasm is so intense when being inside a guy, but it has always been more about the "attachment" or merging of two. In some ways I see the bottom as being the better man because he is the one who is giving you access to be inside him. An analogy I would make is if you watch a mother hen, she protects her young by taking them in under her wings at night or when they are scared to protect them. I always felt that ultimate nurturing when a guy wants "me" inside him.

I have ED now, but when I think of sex and love it is still about being inside. I know my partner would prefer if I could use my cock. I use my fingers/thumb now and then, but I don't do it real often as I know that fingers/thumb still aren't the same as cock. I get some satisfaction of that however, because at least it is a part of me even if it isn't my cock.

The world would be a better place if there were more bottoms. I think there would be less male aggression and male crimes if when the urge to get rough was simply disarmed with a kiss, and embrase, and a receptive ass.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby str8bttm » 17 January 2021, 10:34

It feels great. I mostly bottom in anon scenes. The anticipation is amazing. It gets me so horny. When he knocks and opens the door and my ass is up, I can feel my hole get more and more sensitive.

Then the foot steps makes me precum. Usually the top will unbuckle his belt and drop his pants. The penetration is the best because its a total stranger inside my hole. The pentration feels great. Hard to explain but when he glides back and forth its awesome.

I usually don't feel the cum inside me. Wish I could but if I take more loads I do.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby lufia » 24 April 2021, 14:47

For me, it's just pure pleasure. I love it all. I love the feeling when a man is pressing against my hole, and then it suddenly opens up and engulfs his cock. I don't even consider it sex unless I have a cock inside me. I have been with women, and topped for men, but nothing compares to the feeling I get when a man is pounding my hole, hits my spot, and leaves me spraying all over him. I once considered myself bi or versatile, but I became a total bottom the day I had my first buttgasm. The orgasm is so much more intense. Even when I'm masturbating, I'm not fully satisfied anymore without my vibrator. I pretty much stay perpetually horny unless I have something in my ass. It makes me feel like a dirty little slut, and I just can't get enough. I'm addicted to it.
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby beachdawg63 » 28 April 2021, 16:00

First of all it has to be with the right guy. The guy topping me now I have known since 5th grade. He is a top and me bottom. He is pretty big and thick. I always let him take charge and he is very good at it. The feeling is great especially since he stretches me so much. With him I am totally relaxed and open up easily. He sets the pace unless I am riding him which also feels really good cause I can really bounce on it as fast as I want. :devil:
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Re: what does bottoming feel like for you?

Unread postby Petite » 30 April 2021, 11:15

Best times are when my partner lets me suck him off and then tops me until I get a buttgasm. Other times he just needs to dump his load. and there's no time for any of that. Either way I agree face down ass up position feels most comfortable.
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