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What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 9 August 2022, 17:45

Hi, I'm religated to being a bottom and just curious how the other side feels, what turns on tops or what turns them off. Do you like bottoms who are innocent or more dirty? Young? Old? Thin? Chubby? Submissive? Open minded?
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 9 August 2022, 20:44

Who relegated you? There may be an appeals process you can enter into in order to get promoted back to top status.

Just because the review board has apparently suspended your privileges, it doesn’t mean they’re lost forever.
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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 9 August 2022, 22:00

Marmaduke wrote:Who relegated you? There may be an appeals process you can enter into in order to get promoted back to top status.

Just because the review board has apparently suspended your privileges, it doesn’t mean they’re lost forever.


It is actually lost forever... almost a decade now since I had my accident and had nerve damage to my penis. Oh well, I still find sexual companionship with men.
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Unread postby René » 9 August 2022, 22:07

jaredjoy90 wrote:It is actually lost forever... almost a decade now since I had my accident and had nerve damage to my penis.

:hug:

jaredjoy90 wrote:Oh well, I still find sexual companionship with men.

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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby ChristopherT525 » 11 August 2022, 14:52

Best part: Meeting a man who is no fuss and experienced
Worst part: Disposing of the body.
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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 11 August 2022, 18:27

ChristopherT525 wrote:Best part: Meeting a man who is no fuss and experienced
Worst part: Disposing of the body.


By disposing I hope you mean breaking up with him or parting ways and not the other meaning...
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Unread postby ChristopherT525 » 12 August 2022, 06:43

jaredjoy90 wrote:
ChristopherT525 wrote:Best part: Meeting a man who is no fuss and experienced
Worst part: Disposing of the body.


By disposing I hope you mean breaking up with him or parting ways and not the other meaning...



Of course :D
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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby StraightGuy95 » 9 September 2022, 01:54

Best: Giving the bottom a memorable experience to the point where he wants more and exclusively wants your dick
Worst: When the bottom wants to be more intimate when I don't want to, such as wanting their ass ate or kissing
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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 9 September 2022, 17:18

McTaggartfan wrote:Do all of you have nothing better to think about than sex? Perhaps try reading a book and dedicating your life to something more constructive than simply having sex.


Thank you for telling us what to think about random guy from a gay forum website in which the topic is "Sexuality". We are sticking exactly to the topic and keeping it in scope. For your information I have a masters degree in engineering and work 55 hour weeks with tons of paperwork. I spend WAY more time on Engineering forums both for work and personal learning. As well I love athletics and working out. I talk about sex on here because aside for a few friends I have nobody to talk to, experience some level of worry, and hopefully someone on here can put my mind at ease. Dating is still new to me and I feel better with some advice. If you don't like what I have to write skip any topics written by Jared.
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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby Christian2 » 10 September 2022, 12:57

Hi Jaredjoy, thanks for posting so much here!
I am a bottom, but I think I can answer for my boyfriend (active only).
What he likes most is that I am submissive, that I obey. That I am laying in bed just to create pleasure for him.
It is not only the fuck (butt fuck predominantly), but the fact that he is dominating me.
The dominance in his behaviour and his dominance in carrying out the fuck are very closely linked for him and for me.
For me, being the bottom and being submissive belong together.
So I often have to wear a face harness or I am tied to the bed, if he is not satisfied with my performance. But this is not only fine for me. It is part of the game. I hope you understand. Thanks for reading.
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 11 September 2022, 11:29

Kathleen Jackson wrote:I really love this gay forum website :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

Thank you for taking the trouble to link me. I fear I might never have found it otherwise.
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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 24 September 2022, 00:29

jaredjoy90 wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Do all of you have nothing better to think about than sex? Perhaps try reading a book and dedicating your life to something more constructive than simply having sex.


Thank you for telling us what to think about random guy from a gay forum website in which the topic is "Sexuality". We are sticking exactly to the topic and keeping it in scope. For your information I have a masters degree in engineering and work 55 hour weeks with tons of paperwork. I spend WAY more time on Engineering forums both for work and personal learning. As well I love athletics and working out. I talk about sex on here because aside for a few friends I have nobody to talk to, experience some level of worry, and hopefully someone on here can put my mind at ease. Dating is still new to me and I feel better with some advice. If you don't like what I have to write skip any topics written by Jared.


I had wanted to comment on this twist of the thread before one of the posts was deleted, but I procrastinated. So here is my comments...

Of course there is nothing wrong with your thread especially in this part of the forum that is about sexuality.

I think that many people (including guys) don't understand that just because men have cocks and balls that somehow we are cut from the same cloth. We are not. Some have men have stronger sexual urges than other men. One of the strangest things I noticed about men is that weaker and stronger sexual drives is NOT a determination as to whether a man is monogamous or not. I had a much stronger sexual drive than most of the many men I had been with before I met my partner of 19+ years. Many times I would masturbate just to reduce my urges so that I wouldn't just be a partner's pain in the ass (pun intended). Anyway, it is a strange observation I made that the strength of urges is not connected to strong urges to be faithful.

In fact years ago I even joined 12-step for sex addiction. Long story short, while I didn't "work the steps" like I should have, I did eventually stop the behaviors. For me what made the difference was being loved. I still have strong urges (even despite my horrible ED), but the fact that I have someone who loves me, makes all the difference. I look at a lot of porn, but I never fancy myself being with someone else.

To have another man CHOSE to spend is life with me and loving me is more powerful than all the WONDERFUL orgasms I have had over my decades of m2m sex. Yes, I ache to be inside him, and that is probably why I look at so much porn, but his love is what makes every day worth while. The best part if being a top is when you find a bottom who wants you and you alone in his most private part because he is in love with you and not because he just wants anything or anybody up inside him. When you are inside a man it is the closest thing to a merger of souls. Society tells us that men are suppose to compete with each other. A man letting you enter him, puts that competition down and lets you see him at his most venerable. When I made love to a man it wasn't a rush to MY orgasm, but rather a journey of merged souls.

The worst part of being a top is that you are at the mercy of your cock working. My whole orientation is to be inside another guy. Bottoming like I did years ago at the beginning was never something I could get into. It wasn't because I was better than another man, it just wasn't my nature. I only did it because I was naive and thought I had to bottom because I wasn't hung.

It is as if my life has always been about returning to some mystical male womb -- a sanctuary where I am protected from the demons out in the world as well as those inside me. To smell a guy, to since his warmth, to feel his textures (why I love hairy guys), to here is sounds (breathing moans, etc), to look into his eyes and see his desire for you... This is why I see bottom men as angels on earth, and the closest thing to experiencing the divine. Yes my life is also about plenty of other things, but life without someone to love and be loved back is like living in a two dimensional black and white photo -- lacking in colors, lacking in smells, lacking in touch.

My life is good -- thanks to my mate who like the rising and the setting of the sun is my constant, my rock.
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Re: What is the best and worst part of sex for tops?

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 24 September 2022, 17:14

@NobodySpecial thanks for an answer that actually stuck to the topic. Your peespective gave me some idea to solve my curiousity. One day I hope to have a long term relationship like yours. For now its playtime!
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