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What sexual role do you normally take during sex?

Bottom/submissive
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What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 7 April 2018, 20:44

I’m leaving out powerbottoming and other categories to keep it simple and straightforward. Just give an estimated answer as to what you tend to do on average during sex. In other words, base it off your actual behavior, not how you tend to see yourself.

I’m curious to see what GFO members tend to be like in the sack.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 April 2018, 21:11

poolerboy0077 wrote:I’m leaving out powerbottoming and other categories to keep it simple and straightforward. Just give an estimated answer as to what you tend to do on average during sex. In other words, base it off your actual behavior, not how you tend to see yourself.

I’m curious to see what GFO members tend to be like in the sack.


First the twink banging thing and now Voyeurism too, really?!?!?!?!? If you were straight then I'd start to think your sexually deviant.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 7 April 2018, 22:18

But I’m gay so that just makes me charming.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 7 April 2018, 22:31

I picked versatile. :D

Ive been in relationships where I've been mostly the bottom and ones where im mostly the top.

When i first started having sex i preferred bottoming. Nowadays id say i prefer to top. But i still like the option of changing that up from time to time. :)
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Jzone » 7 April 2018, 23:02

Not only am I bisexual, but also happily versatile. Maybe I have an issue with commitment...?

Seriously, either one. When I had a long term boyfriend we usually didn't know who would be where in bed. It was part of the fun, letting the energy and anticipation build until somebody took over. Then there was always the option to flip, if we still had the energy.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 8 April 2018, 04:51

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Usually anyway. I enjoy topping as well so I can go both ways, but I'm definitely more a bottom.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby rogonandi » 8 April 2018, 08:15

I usually like to top, but I'm really not into the whole dominant/submissive sort of thing. How one likes the dick doesn't necessarily mean they're dominant or submissive. :cool:
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby PopTart » 8 April 2018, 08:21

While I wish I could say versatile and while when I do bottom, I really go for it and love it in the moment, it's not often that I really want to bottom. I much prefer to top.

I don't play into sub and dom roles either, prefering either plenty of energy or gentle intimacy, as the mood takes. I generally like things to be equal in that respect, playing off eachothers vibe.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 8 April 2018, 09:25

I do describe myself as versatile, and I am happy either way, but to answer the question I usually tend to bottom.

In my teens and early 20s, I described myself exclusively as a bottom. Topping didn’t interest me at all. Those were by far my sluttier days. Plus, my last relationship I think I topped a grand totally of about 3 times in two years. So the tally is vastly on the side of bottoming.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 8 April 2018, 12:07

My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that? Do most of the gay guys you encounter come off as mostly sexually submissive? As mostly bottoms, does that frustrate you?
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby PopTart » 8 April 2018, 12:33

poolerboy0077 wrote:My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that? Do most of the gay guys you encounter come off as mostly sexually submissive? As mostly bottoms, does that frustrate you?

hmmmm. I don't think that all gay men are by nature submissive sexually. That said, there is a definate component of that, in being penetrated, that lends itself to submissive roles, but I think that one can be very aggressive in a bottom role and I've known gay guys (including myself) who take that approach.

When I top, I'm usually looking for someone who will follow my lead, but isn't afraid to take the initiative, if that qualifies as submissive, then thats usually what I get with sexual partners. I don't despair of submissive types in the bedroom, but I do like to imagine that those sexual partners have a wider range in a more long term situation.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Stevieb0y » 8 April 2018, 13:23

PopTart wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that? Do most of the gay guys you encounter come off as mostly sexually submissive? As mostly bottoms, does that frustrate you?

hmmmm. I don't think that all gay men are by nature submissive sexually. That said, there is a definate component of that, in being penetrated, that lends itself to submissive roles, but I think that one can be very aggressive in a bottom role and I've known gay guys (including myself) who take that approach.

When I top, I'm usually looking for someone who will follow my lead, but isn't afraid to take the initiative, if that qualifies as submissive, then thats usually what I get with sexual partners. I don't despair of submissive types in the bedroom, but I do like to imagine that those sexual partners have a wider range in a more long term situation.

I picked bottom as that is my preference but on the odd occasion I will also top. I think from my early gay sexual experiences I wanted to be controlled by an experienced guy and feel submissively penetrated. As I got more confident I found it really depends on the individual and the vibes I get off him. Sex should be spontaneous and enjoyed in the heat of the moment. I have bottomed and happily been submissive. I have also bottomed and been the main initiator and at times aggressive.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 April 2018, 13:43

PB, as usual you have everyone else spilling their beans while you remain silent on the issue. That's sort of like the Grindr assholes who ask for a pics but don't give one in return...
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby PopTart » 8 April 2018, 14:08

mxguy01 wrote:PB, as usual you have everyone else spilling their beans while you remain silent on the issue. That's sort of like the Grindr assholes who ask for a pics but don't give one in return...

Pooler I suspect is a reluctant top, who secretly wants to get mastered by an energetic twink, but can't find one with the demeanour for it.

Hence the canvassing :D
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 April 2018, 14:39

i'm not quite sure how to vote because of the conditions you set. You say "actual behavior". Is this only while Gay, what about prior experience from straight? What about Bi?

So me: I go back and forth thinking I'm a bottom or a vers bottom. I like being bottom so that's why I think "bottom". Then there is my past - I topped just fine without any issues. But that was while playing straight but really having another preference buried away. Being recent to the gay experience I've only been with guys who are total tops. That doesn't really bother me and well I'm happy to bottom. Thing is, when I'm super attracted to a guy, I want to flip with him in the worse way. So I definitely wanted to top with the two guys that I've now had a relationship with. However I have no evidence that I can and well I'm an empirical type of person and without definitive proof I'm hesitant to say I'm versatile.

So PB, given the above, how would you think I should vote?

Oh, and since your survey equates bottom = sub and top = dom, I think it is pretty much invalid from the get go. Maybe a subliminal issue where this is what you desire not so much as wondering how people fit in but rather forming a study that boxes them into categories that you wish them to be in.

On the discussion that gay = sub. I think that is really wrong as well. I think it tends to stem more from the fact that people tend to be a bit shy, awkward, etc when it comes to sex in general. This makes them hold back their real personality and/or desires. The cool thing about that is having a single partner things just keep getting better and better. And if you don't have that shy/awkward feeling then you'll worry (and maybe for good cause) that you fit more into the aggressive asshole type. If anything I think straight women are more generally type cast into the submissive role more so than gay. With gay you have the option to be what you want, when you want. Way better than straight! Honestly I think being "peers" when it comes to sexual relations is way better - to me that means a give-and-take-situation.

So stop trying to put your twinks into a categorized box and just go have some fun with them. Hell if you find a dom/power/bottom/twink you might just have a bunch of fun with that. :devil:
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 8 April 2018, 17:16

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^ All of you growing up.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 April 2018, 18:45

^ except the camera would be one of those stupid old Polaroid instant cameras.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Derek » 8 April 2018, 21:00

mxguy01 wrote:^ except the camera would be one of those stupid old Polaroid instant cameras.

Genuinely asking: did people take and share b-hole pics in your time?
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 8 April 2018, 22:03

Derek wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:^ except the camera would be one of those stupid old Polaroid instant cameras.

Genuinely asking: did people take and share b-hole pics in your time?

Can you imagine? I think I’d be mortified if I opened my mail one day to find a Polaroid photograph of a butthole.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 April 2018, 22:19

mxguy01 wrote:^ except the camera would be one of those stupid old Polaroid instant cameras.


My dad was into pictures and film, as in 8mm stuff, of his family. This was from the 60's period. Had the 8mm film converted to VCR but now it's time to convert it to digital. In the end you only have picture, video and memories... The video from then is priceless. Before my time, my parents apparently threw some great parties.

Unfortunately none of the Polaroid crap survived.
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