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What sexual role do you normally take during sex?

Bottom/submissive
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Versatile
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Top/dominant
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Whiimzee » 4 May 2018, 13:54

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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby René » 4 May 2018, 19:32

poolerboy0077 wrote:My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that?

You may be interested to know that they ran a similar poll on a gay porn torrent site I sometimes visit and these were the results:

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So basically perfectly even, and they had a ridiculous sample size.

The poll here would have been perfectly even if I'd voted before it closed :P
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 5 May 2018, 22:51

René wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that?

You may be interested to know that they ran a similar poll on a gay porn torrent site I sometimes visit and these were the results:

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So basically perfectly even, and they had a ridiculous sample size.

The poll here would have been perfectly even if I'd voted before it closed :P

Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam did one better and looked at porn viewing habits and other data outside of self reporting. Bottoms definitely outweighed tops.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Derek » 5 May 2018, 23:16

poolerboy0077 wrote:Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam did one better and looked at porn viewing habits and other data outside of self reporting. Bottoms definitely outweighed tops.

As I recall, they said the split was about 50-50.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby drakos » 6 May 2018, 04:32

Sex is great. Drunk sex is great, too. But many gays, especially in their youth, abuse alcohol to relax and step over their internal limitations. Learn to do it sober.Many people believe that gay people are necessarily engaged in anal sex every day. As the mini-survey conducted by the medical organization Bespoke Surgical showed, this is not the case.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby uncut7in » 27 June 2018, 16:18

I'm 100% top, so like my partners to be sub/bottom and much younger
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby uncut7in » 29 June 2019, 12:34

As far as I can remember, the last time I was penetrated was 1981. Since then I've fucked literally hundreds of guys, so you can safely say I'm 100% top. It's not really a question of role-playing, it's just that I love the feeling of my cock pounding a nice ass.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 29 June 2019, 22:28

I am about 90% bottom and love it that way. If a partner wants me to top, then I will do so. Being barebacked is my favorite. I have 3 gay nudist friends that are STD free. They are the only ones that I will allow to bareback me.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Danny88 » 30 June 2019, 22:53

I picked bottom, I would top on occasion but usually always prefer to bottom. My boyfriend is top so works perfect.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 July 2019, 11:30

René wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:My interest in this comes from both my suspicion that most gay guys tend to be sexually submissive and some existing data that seems to support this. What’s everyone’s thought on that?

You may be interested to know that they ran a similar poll on a gay porn torrent site I sometimes visit and these were the results:

Screenshot_20180504_202353.png

So basically perfectly even, and they had a ridiculous sample size.

The poll here would have been perfectly even if I'd voted before it closed :P
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 3 July 2019, 07:19

I'm not sure why some of you are mixing terms bottom with submissive. Submissive typically is used in BDSM. Likewise, on another board I frequent, it is used quite a bit by effeminate guys who can run the range from simply effeminate, to being part of the "sissy" culture, to being on the verge of considering themselves transgender. Now they abound on that particular forum. I don't think it used to be so much, but times have changed on that forum...

Bottom to me has always been more synonymous with simply a term like receiver than it ever has been with a term like submissive. Likewise, if the bottom sits on a cock, versus missionary, or any other position doesn't mean he is dominant vs submissive. Use of submissive for an anal receptive guy seems rather imprecise (to call it nicely) to right down being rude. Some of the nicest and most masculine guys I know are wonderful bottoms -- including the love of my life.

To make sure the English language hadn't changed and left me behind, I googled it, and found this site for example:

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define. ... Submissive

Granted there are bottoms who might want to just lay there and be abused, but I think most are simply enjoying the wonders of anal sex from the receiving end. Bottoms deserve so much respect for their role in sex. In some ways it is the more masculine role because they sometimes sacrifice their own orgasm to make sure the other man gets his. They also do it despite all the crap society (and sometimes our own subculture) give them that somehow they are less of a man than us tops -- which is pure BS. Bottoms are brave angels on earth that make life worth living.

Thank you for every last one of them. I wish there were more men who were bottoms. (Like I used to say, every time a man gets fucked, an angel earns his wings. ;) )
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby René » 6 July 2019, 21:00

NobodySpecial wrote:I'm not sure why some of you are mixing terms bottom with submissive. Submissive typically is used in BDSM. Likewise, on another board I frequent, it is used quite a bit by effeminate guys who can run the range from simply effeminate, to being part of the "sissy" culture, to being on the verge of considering themselves transgender. Now they abound on that particular forum. I don't think it used to be so much, but times have changed on that forum...

Bottom to me has always been more synonymous with simply a term like receiver than it ever has been with a term like submissive. Likewise, if the bottom sits on a cock, versus missionary, or any other position doesn't mean he is dominant vs submissive. Use of submissive for an anal receptive guy seems rather imprecise (to call it nicely) to right down being rude. Some of the nicest and most masculine guys I know are wonderful bottoms -- including the love of my life.

Is the implication that masculine guys have just got to be dominant not equally problematic?

Not to mention the implication that 'submissive' is some type of insult and is associated with not being a friendly person... or am I missing something?

NobodySpecial wrote:They also do it despite all the crap society (and sometimes our own subculture) give them that somehow they are less of a man than us tops -- which is pure BS.

I can't say I've ever experienced or seen any evidence of this. Have I been lucky?

NobodySpecial wrote:Bottoms are brave angels on earth that make life worth living.

Oh, stop. :D

NobodySpecial wrote:I wish there were more men who were bottoms.

It's not exactly scientific evidence, but the numbers seem to be remarkably balanced, with virtually equal numbers of tops and bottoms and some 76% of gay guys being willing to bottom and the same number being willing to top. :)
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby rogonandi » 7 July 2019, 04:27

Rene likes to bottom? That's hot! :D
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 7 July 2019, 16:34

René wrote:
NobodySpecial wrote:... Some of the nicest and most masculine guys I know are wonderful bottoms -- including the love of my life.

Is the implication that masculine guys have just got to be dominant not equally problematic?

Not to mention the implication that 'submissive' is some type of insult and is associated with not being a friendly person... or am I missing something?


As a top (albeit basically retired for health reasons), I never worried how OTHER tops were perceived. I was only concerned how I was perceived and defended the wonderful men who gave me the opportunity to top them. I was never every bottoms wet dream. I'm just average in endowment, so a size queen bottom would easily turn me down. I also wasn't a sadist, so a masochist bottom (as the term submissive usually implies in the BDSM definition) wouldn't get any where with me.

Again I don't consider myself a dominant, but simply a top. From my past (childhood, young adult) I'm very capable of becoming a dominant. However, I don't let that "Mr. Hide" part of my personality come out. That is part of the reason I would never do any drugs or get drunk. I don't let that monster out. Years ago, I had a fuck buddy who loved to bottom for me. One time I probably tried to penetrate him one too many times. I saw the look of fear in his eyes, and I just lost it. I started to cry because I felt like the monster had started to come out from the look in his eyes. He said he simply was sore and couldn't do it again. He tried to console me by saying that sex is really about using other people to get off. (I never saw it that way, and I never will.)

I don't like the term domanent/submissive because of the real BDSM meaning of the terms. Misusing those terms where it is supposed to be top/bottom or giver/receiver doesn't change the true connotation of those BDSM terms. And yes those BDSM terms are not complements as far as I'm concerned.

René wrote:
NobodySpecial wrote:They also do it despite all the crap society (and sometimes our own subculture) give them that somehow they are less of a man than us tops -- which is pure BS.

I can't say I've ever experienced or seen any evidence of this. Have I been lucky?

Yes

René wrote:
NobodySpecial wrote:I wish there were more men who were bottoms.

It's not exactly scientific evidence, but the numbers seem to be remarkably balanced, with virtually equal numbers of tops and bottoms and some 76% of gay guys being willing to bottom and the same number being willing to top. :)


I think it all depends on ones own experiences. In my experiences, I always found in the sexual world that there were too many tops.

Now perhaps some of those I perceived as tops were more versatile, but I just didn't click with them. It is easier to let someone down by saying your sexual roles aren't comparable than to tell someone they are not hung enough, too hung, wrong height, weight, age, complexion, etc.

On this other board I have been on for years, way too many identify as crave-cock-but-not-men. Even in my testosterone-overloaded youthful days I wanted to be appreciated at some level as a human being -- not just a penis. While I might receive an orgasm from getting off, if there was no humanity in the encounter, I wasn't satisfied. I didn't bring an engagement ring with me when I went cruising, but encounters where there was to be no hugging, no kissing, not even some conversation before or afterwards, left me unfulfilled.

So even though that other board has so many men who would love to bottom, or at least suck cock, I have no respect for them because they have devolved into subhuman when they detach penises from the heart of the human being attached to that penis. Men are human beings -- not simply livestock to be milked.
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Stephen68 » 7 July 2019, 21:51

Versatile for me luckily my boyfriend feels the same way
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Re: What sexual role do you usually take during sex?

Unread postby Eryx » 8 July 2019, 04:51

rogonandi wrote:Rene likes to bottom? That's hot! :D
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