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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Softheart » 1 May 2019, 18:40

I had one prior M2M experience, but it was strictly casual and was devoid of emotional content. It was a meet somewhere and blow and go. It was like eating a picture of food, and complaining about still being hungry. I knew I needed more.

My defining experience was sometime in September, in the 90's. I was 19 and just started college. A guy and I in another dorm crossed paths a couple of times, and he became very interested in me. I was flattered, but not sure what to do. I had never considered that a man would be attracted to me, let alone having to face the challenge of being "out" before. As we began spending time together, I found myself happy to be around him and I was fine with him "being the boss" and taking the lead. I only had to be my friendly self. When he began casually touching me, I liked it. He became the only guy I was interested in, and having him interested in me as a person was new territory for me. It was sexual without the sex. I felt I had a boyfriend now, and my life had became a "we".

He was a definite manly dude, taller and more built than I was. I'm not very tall, not very big, and if you haven't guessed, I'm not very manly except when I have to be. But with him, I could relax and get all smiley and flirty if I wanted. Finally in my dorm when no one was around, he kissed me. I had never kissed a guy before! It was really cool. And invigorating. He was rapidly becoming my everything.

A couple of dates later, he invited me to a Halloween party at a gay off campus frat house. I was planning a minor in theater so I welcomed his idea of going to a costume shop. He decided to go as Captain Hook, and since Captain Hook was a Peter Pan character, I jokingly suggested that maybe I should be Peter Pan. He loved the idea. So Peter Pan I became, tights and all. I had curly red bangs, that peeked out of the hat, and a faux leather top with the tight green leggings and the unisex skirt like bottoms. I even bought some green Tom's for shoes. I did indulge myself and added some green make and sparkles to go more with the feminine genre of my character. I felt really cute in that outfit. He was so obviously pleased with my choice, I swear he was panting.

That night was the night we spent the night together, and it was the most totally enjoyable night I could ever hope for. Thank God, I made sure I was ready for any and all possibilities. When we got going, my stallion did not disappoint me! We stayed together for almost two years until life moved us on in different directions.

I learned a valuable thing about myself. I need to fall in love with a man who will love me back to make a relationship worth the bother. I was hooked for life on the idea of a man caring for me in the larger context of life, rather than just a sex partner.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby dens8 » 2 May 2019, 03:49

I never had the time to be real intimate with a man, only that one time I just relaxed let myself be overwhelmed by his touch. He’d seduced me, very certain of that. Thing is I’m glad he did because he gave me something I’ve never had since. That is to be totally relaxed with what we did at the same time feeling wanted and needed. Too long ago to say it was genuine love but it was the closest I ever got to it with men. He was the only man I ever did it with. I sure hope though you find what you’re looking for. Your story touched me...
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Closetfreak » 12 May 2019, 19:27

I contacted a guy that i went to school with that was gay all this time. Stopped by and visited with him and brought it up that I was curious, well after an hour of talking. We started touching each other and ended up with him bending me over. I thanked him for listening to me and helping me by being my first. I liked it and that's all i want now, I like dressing up as a woman and having intimate moments with a man. I still get with a woman from time to time.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Jryski » 12 May 2019, 22:29

KelvinTop wrote:PS sobber Dan and i Fucked twice after he woke up. I even managed to suck on his Cock. YUMMMMMM

I am now at a minimum BI! Although i cant help but think about guys.


Thanks for reeading sorry if i offend any one
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That's cute! Why not date Dan? You guys seem good together. :P

My first gay experience was when I was 18 and working as a PA for a celebrity makeup artist in Beijing. We were kept on a very short leash and had no personal time. At that point I was a virgin in all aspects and never even had my first kiss yet. One night I snuck out and got a hotel room near the clubbing district. Went to this gay bar called Destination. I got drunk, met some white dude and brought him back to my room with me. Made out for the first time and sucked my first dick that day! :D woke up the next morning and realized that he wasn't even cute. Whoops!
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Eos » 13 May 2019, 08:14

23 years after I was born, I still have no experience at all. I really like this thread, it brings hope to me ^^
I really hope I'll find someone that would love me. Although one of the thing I am afraid of is that I'm not sure how to give this love back. As I never take the first step. Always doubtful of my actions. I guess I should just jump into my feelings and just stop overthinking things.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Floridadude8484 » 19 May 2019, 04:39

I was like 15 or so. I had thought about messing with a guy but never really had the opportunity. Well, my sister went out of town and I stayed at her house. This was back in the AOL days. Anyway, i went into a chatroom and started talking to this guy and we hit it off. He wanted to.come by. I was nervous as hell but weirdly excited. I walked to the park down the street from the house and he picked me up. We went down the road where my neighborhood wasn't built yet and he parked. When he leaned back and unzipped his pants I leaned over and enjoyed the feeling of a soft cock go hard in my mouth. Absolutely loved it. When he came in my mouth i knew i was going to do it alot more.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby uncut7in » 21 May 2019, 12:19

I was 12 or just 13, and had a schoolfriend round for the afternoon. We were in my room chatting, I can't remember what about but it must have got me aroused. I wore loose underwear at the time, so he must have seen the outline of my erect cock in my jeans.

He soon unzipped my jeans and started masturbating me, and I did the same to him. I already knew I liked boys not girls, so it was great that another boy was interested in my cock. We soon graduated to oral sex, We used to call at his house on the way home from school, and have hot 69 sessions.

We didn't know anything about fucking, and it wasn't until I was 31 before I had my first fuck. I met this blond guy my age at a mutual friends, we were soon kissing and fondling each. He invited me back to his place for the night - he was much more experienced than me, and we ended up fucking each other.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby xeil » 21 May 2019, 12:56

I was in high school, finally made peace with my sexuality, and I met a guy online. We met after school, had a little first date. It went really good so I finished at his house where I had my first experience.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Danny88 » 30 June 2019, 23:06

I was 16 and started chatting to a guy online, he was early 40s. Met in a carpark where I sucked him then he brought be back to his place where he fucked me. It was very intense but amazing.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Oztrich » 1 July 2019, 23:05

I was a teenager and came upon some of my peers together in a wooded area. One of them dared me to give another of the teens that were there a blow job, and I did it... I LOVED it! I had never thought of doing anything like that before, but it was amazing! :)
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Pigeon Valley » 2 July 2019, 01:54

Just a few days ago, actually. I've never identified as anything but asexual before that point directly (I thought I was straight before I really knew about sexuality, but that was pretty much because I didn't know anything about it), and I'd never had any attraction to anyone, be they man or woman. No traits even particularly attracted me. I often thought that I'd like to be thinner she fitter, and perhaps that was part of a subconscious attraction, but it never really felt like an attraction in any sense of the word.

A couple of days ago, I was watching a YouTube video by Thoughty2, and in the video, it included footage of a very fit man flexing. I've seen that kind of thing before, and it's never affected me, but I was struck by a very different feeling that I quickly identifed as the sexual attraction I had been lacking up to that point.

So I did a quick and highly rudimentary experiment. I looked at pictures of naked men and naked women. For the women, there was minimal attraction. If there was any at all, it was definitely less noticeable than for the men. I felt a great deal of attraction towards most of the men, very strong compared to any feeling before. So I concluded then and there that I must be gay. And since then, that conclusion has held up to my own scrutiny enough for me to be comfortable with accepting that label.

Now, as for why I never felt any attraction before, I have a number of hypotheses. Firstly, of course, I have read extensively about sexual fluidity and the possibility that I really did "become" gay at that point. That aligns best with what I have felt, and seems to make sense for me. There is another hypothesis, however. I come from a very "sex-negative" family, quite conservative and fundamentalist (by British standards, at least) who have long disagreed with homosexuality for those reasons. As I grew up religious, perhaps the subconscious rejection of homosexuality continued into my post-religious years. I've had some other hypotheses, but neither make as much sense as those two in my opinion, so yeah. There's that.

EDIT: As for why it emerged then and there, I have no idea at all.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Brice » 4 July 2019, 04:26

I Sucked a Man's Cock in the back of an Adult Bookstore when I was 20. I was so excited by the experience that I went back
to the same store that Saturday night. I was high on beer and pot and I was Hot to Suck! Sucked Three Men that night and I still Love to Suck Cock!

Sucked my first Black Man that night!
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby rocketquentin » 10 August 2019, 10:48

it was only touching and feeling each other, a friend in my high school wrestling team. We had some special connection already for a long time but one day we were the only left, I noticed he had an erection, pretty obvious in his wrestling singlet and that gave me hard one too, no way to hide that either. That was the moment we acknowledged what we knew already
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby MD80 » 16 August 2019, 14:03

My first gay sexual experience happened when I was 11, and it was pretty harmless. My best friend and I would sneak into the woods with his dad's Penthouse and we would jerk off looking at it. One day he asked if he could put his dick in my mouth. I thought he was trying to prank me at first so I was hesitant but after a while I let him. He seemed to know what he was doing from what I remember. He trusted in my mouth a couple of times. He then asked if he could put my dick in his mouth and I let him. I remember it felt really nice but it was only for about 5 seconds.

A few days later, I think, we kissed and would touch each other's dicks and balls even without any magazine. This went on for a while until I moved away with my family.
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby Aubreyysays » 23 August 2019, 12:53

:nag: I was 15 and had always been since the age of 12 wanted to do whatever my strong, muscular friend said to do in a submissive role. We had talked about have sex for 3 years and I had and still have a thing to black guys and the way to take control and dominant someone like me in sex. So I had him pick me up and I gave him a blowjob and rode him and loved every nutted all in and my mouth and face and I swallowed it. His penis was very big and one of the biggest I've had since he took my virginity. It felt so good and he picked me up and dominated me and I loved it.
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Re: What was your first gay experience? My first gay expierience was

Unread postby loftyc » 31 March 2020, 23:42

Newlygayman wrote:My first gay expierience was a few days ago which was when I was talking to a gay guy about his love of cock and we got really close and then he gently put his hands on my cock and it got hard then we went back to a hotel room and he started giving me a hand Job and we rubbed our dicks together then finally I came all over his face and he said he loved it so I let him do it to me and I loved the taste to it was so sexy .
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i was molested at 6, we jacked and sucked each other for 3 days
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 1 April 2020, 11:08

From reading some of those I guess I never even have had what you folks would call a gay experience.
I never met someone who would have showed an interest in mutual love or romantics so far.

I thought it was gay enough to fantasise about romance, or, later to marry a dude. So this was when I was like 5 to 6 years of age, and I wanted to marry King Richard. I know, this must be hilarious, but to a 5 year old looking at an artist's idea of what King Richard might have looked like as a twink, I never even realised he would be an old fart until I'm grown up ( If I ever had realised he was long since dead in the 1st place ) and in the proper state of coming of age. I also never realised back then, that any slight idea of same sex coupling would be a criminal offense and mere utopia, for this was like 1975.

Okay, later, of course, I met other people, I had some cool buddies especially in Canada. Yet if there was someone I really felt attracted to, they always were heterosexuals. I found out with the time it took to get to know them better. So to this day all my gay experience remained to be rather theoretical.
I may have read and answered personal ads quite a bit, but nothing came from that, not even some interesting, ongoing email correspondence. I guess I'm just too weird and too boring lol. And too much into gear wearing twinks, that too. I actually think the twink attraction could well be some disorder of sorts. As it goes for fetishes, that pretty well would be seen in that a fashion by all the shrink folks.

Some years I even went to a cruising area, trying to talk to real life gay people. Usually they were like 70 plus, had some nice chats with an agile 89 year old landlord guy, off and on, as he seemed quite cultivated. Also had some strange talks to a homeless guy in his mid sixties, who would drag me along collecting refund bottles and cans once in a while. He was rather young in compare to others. So if that was gay experience - as far as it went.

I thought about trying escort services, when I was around 40 or so. Daft an idea, really. But then I never had the extra funds ( there was always another sail, another board to get first ) and I thought it must be gruesome, even if it was their job and they chose to do this for business, to ask of them any more than just talking nice and drink tea, perhaps. Also, not knowing anyone of them so closely to have all the love feelings simulated and that, it did not seem right, so I never did try that out. I would have felt like a creep, too. I was thinking of what would happen if I fell in love to the escort guy and he would be like :noes: yikes, no, not youuu, argh, help :lol: You know, like that scene in "Rise of the planet of apes" it was, I guess, where the Jones guy was close to fall off the bridge in that demolished helicopter, and he can see Koba come to give it a shove... uhm...yeah.

Who the hell would go on a date with Koba? So you see. That's not an easy problem to be solved. Give me something of quantum field theory style, much easier. :shrug:

I nearly kissed someone's snowboard helmet, once. If that wasn't gay, but I'm quite ashamed I nearly did. If his in-the-meantime wife would know she'd probably kick my poor old fuzzy ass, and badass style. :nono:
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby René » 1 April 2020, 11:15

Depending on what qualifies as a gay experience, I guess for me it was one of the following:

  • Getting a crush on a male classmate (age 14)
  • Getting into a relationship with my first boyfriend who lived in England after getting to know him through MSN Messenger (age 15)
  • Cuddling with said first boyfriend for the first time (age 15)
  • If we're talking sexual: I guess the intimate touching that went on in the back of Brenden's mom's car after they picked me up from the airport the first time, and the stuff that followed in bed our first night together (we didn't get much sleep :P) (age 20, when Brenden was 18)
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby InternetShrink » 4 April 2020, 08:37

I was 9... playing tag with my best friend when shit got a little to real lol
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Re: What was your first gay experience?

Unread postby MarkF » 18 October 2020, 15:16

Well, I guess I should probably post to this thread for those who might wonder how I started getting it on with my own cousin.

It was the Saturday after my 16th birthday back in May. I was kind of bummed a bit, since because of COVID-19 it really hadn't been the kind of birthday I'd kind of imagined having (because, hey, I was turning 16, that's supposed to be a big deal, right?). I was hanging around home when my cousin Cole came over (both my dad's brothers and their families live close by), and for some reason my parents and brothers were off doing their own thing, so Cole and I found ourselves sitting on the upstairs family room couch. After some "What do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" we went out back and tossed around a football for a while before we wound up in a fort my brothers and dad and I had built years ago watching weird YouTube videos together on our phones. We were close together so we could see each other's phone screen, to the point that our sides were touching, and after a while I realized that I was kinda enjoying it for reasons other than watching YouTube videos together, and it seemed like he was enjoying it too.

After that day, we kept finding excuses to get together to do stuff, largely just hanging out at each other's house and doing things like playing video games. Since we were both out as being gay, we jokingly (but not really) said to each other that we were dating. Eventually, one Friday night Cole was hanging out at my house, and when everyone else had kind of headed to bed at around 8, Cole and I wound up downstairs in the basement on a couch (me on the end, him in the middle) watching Netflix, and we eventually fell asleep. We were woken up when his mom called his phone at about 11 frantically asking him where he was. While he was telling her where he was, we both realized that I had been sleeping kind of at an angle between the arm and back of the couch, and he had kind of slumped onto me at some point, and had been sleeping with his head kind of on my chest. He looked at me, then asked his mom if it was all right if he stayed the night so he wouldn't have to head home that late at night, and she said he could. After he hung up, we looked at each other before I grabbed a blanket that was on the back of the couch, and we curled back up on the couch kinda the way we'd been before and went back to sleep. I woke up first the next morning, and as I watched him sleeping, I realized I really enjoyed that and I thought that he looked kinda cute.

We continued to do stuff, and in late July we went over to the gym. I had gotten my driver's license and so I drove us over and back. As we got to Cole's home to drop him off, he started to get out, then suddenly leaned over and kissed me right on the lips, and it wasn't exactly a quick kiss, either! He then grinned at me and hopped out of the car and almost ran into his house. When I got home, I jacked off, thinking about him for the first time while doing so.

In early August, we were over at my house again. We were the only ones there, since my dad was at work, my older brother was at his girlfriend's house, and my mom and younger brother had just left for a dentist appointment. We were kinda bored, and I commented that it was too bad that he didn't have a swimming suit with him, or we could go swimming in our swimming pool. Cole shrugged and asked why we didn't simply go naked, since we were both guys and were the only ones there. I was a little surprised, but we both shared bedrooms with brothers and had to shower at the end of gym class at school, so it wasn't like we hadn't been naked around other guys before. So we quickly stripped and jumped into the pool and horsed around for a while. As we got out and were heading back inside, I stopped him because my mom didn't like it when we would go back into the house wet, and since we didn't bring out any towels, we'd have to wait for the air to dry us off. We started horsing around again on the grass while we waited, and at one point Cole kinda jumped onto me and we fell down. That's when we felt it - out hard-ons pressing into each other! We both froze, our eyes going wide. He then started kissing me, and I kissed back as we started grinding our bodies against each other. Rolling around, I wound up on top, and I managed to get up long enough to grab his legs and lift them up a bit and spread them apart. I then began gently pushing my dick into his asshole, and he gasped and started moaning out, and I could feel his ass muscles pushing outward to make it easier. I was soon entirely in him, and laid down onto him and started thrusting as he wrapped his arms and legs around me. We went on like that for a few minutes until he blew his load and then I did, too. It was great!

We laid together for a while before heading inside and taking a shower together, but not bothering to get our clothes back on. A couple hours later, we were on my bed, this time Cole pushing his hard dick into my asshole as we started to make love a second time, (which I thought was even better than the first time!). This time, we lasted a little longer. I came first, then him.

That's how Cole and I had our first time.
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