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Why the pain and discomfort now, if it wasnt there before?!

Unread postby allenwooden » 9 June 2019, 19:18

hey every one. I just had a question out of curiosity. I tried anal sex as a bottom out of curiosity when i was 20 yo. It was smooth and the only pain was the pain that stretched those muscles, but I got used to it and I loved it after the first session.

Since I liked it, I gave it a few more tries and all went well for the next 5-6 sessions, everything was fun/pleasurable/amazing. I enjoyed a lot. I then got busy and the frequency between sessions reduced a lot. While i was 22 I tried it again but it wasnt that smooth like before. I am mostly busy with work or something else so I dont get into it a lot nowadays.

However right now I am 23 and I do manage time for recreation and this year I met a few guys for casual hookups but the thing is, that I dont get to enjoy it the same like I did it previously (while I was 20). Back then I had the control on it on loosening it up. Now it just gets tightened and it seems I dont have a control on my ass and its tight the whole time when a guy is behind me for the intercourse, and it hurts if he tries to be hard or dominating to get inside me.

Any suggestions of how do I get my control back and how do I enjoy it again like I did it back then 2-3 years ago?
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Re: Why the pain and discomfort now, if it wasnt there before?!

Unread postby erti » 9 June 2019, 19:53

Well play with yourself to loosen up the asshole. Should help especially if they're bigger. gradually use more and more fingers enough to get it in there without much force. Lube is your best friend. Lots and lots of lube. Try not to use so much forces and ease into it.
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Re: Why the pain and discomfort now, if it wasnt there before?!

Unread postby Eryx » 10 June 2019, 17:34

There's nervousness, lack of ability (from the top), lack of lube, penis size, position... There are just so many variables for each encounter that you can't really expect them all to be similar! Try to identify exactly what went wrong and work on fixing it. If you're just getting too nervous and it makes it all painful and tight, then make sure you're clean (so that is doesn't cross your mind), use foreplay -- kissing, holding, grinding -- to help you become more comfortable, use more lube, try going in and out softly so that you know what's coming... There are many ways to work on it. Good luck and have fun! :)
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