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Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 21 July 2019, 15:28
by cougar4327
For years I believe I was straight and now there is little question that I am gay. I no longer get excited about having sex with a woman and ONLY think of having sex with men. How is it that I have evolved from thinking only of having sex with men from a man that at one time would have never thought of having sex with a man? How did it happen that now looking at a man and woman having sex or the images of naked beautiful women doesn’t excite me anymore, while two men having sex or images of naked beautiful men excite me enormously? For background, It started gradually with me having sex with men. After trying new sexual activitiest with my ex wife, my ex wife placed a dildo in my mouth and ass, which I enjoyed and continued to do so for a period of time. I then began to watch gay porn to observe how men did gay sex. After a while, I found myself desiring to have sex with a man to see how it felt, which I did and it was exciting and I enjoyed it. I would continue to have sex with a man and afterwards believe that it was the end of future gay sexual encounters, but after a period of time I would seek out more gay sex. The period of time in between having gay sex became shorter and shorter to where, now I engage it as much as possible. Thoughts of not being gay or being bi have slowly disappeared--I have embraced and admitted to myself that I am totally gay. How is it that I have gradually evolved to thinking only of having sex with men from a man that at one time would have never thought of having sex with a man? :( :( :)

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 21 July 2019, 16:54
by Jryski
I don't think it really matters why. What's important is that you're honest with yourself in regards to what you like. A lot of things can happen in 70 years and by being honest with yourself, you are able to live your life to the fullest and thats great! :)

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 21 July 2019, 22:51
by Jzone
I suspect a gypsy curse...

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 02:04
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 03:03
by cougar4327
@Iamjav: woman no longer turning me on. All I desiree now is gay sex---can;t get enough of it.

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 03:08
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 03:26
by Jryski
Iamjava wrote:
cougar4327 wrote:@Iamjav: woman no longer turning me on. All I desiree now is gay sex---can;t get enough of it.


Yet for many years women did it for you. Why not be bi? It's not a bad thing...


They don't turn him on anymore so why should he claim to be bi?

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 03:28
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 03:52
by Jryski
Nobody on here said that its a bad thing. He says he's attracted to males only now. Why are you so interested in trying to convince him otherwise? He's like 70 and alot of gay folks from his time married women and had kids. Why can't they be bi instead of gay, or straight like they were pretending to be? Did the OP ask if he's bi? It's not anyone's job to convince others to be what they think other people should be.

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 04:30
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 04:33
by Derek
Iamjava wrote:If you had kids, it meant that you orgasmed. I never orgasmed to a woman. That's how I know I'm gay.

Have you tried?

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Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 04:36
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 04:59
by Derek
Did the relationships last long enough that you had to plausibly explain why you couldn't cum?

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Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:00
by Jryski
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:01
by Jryski
Did they know they were in a relationship or were they just being polite?

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:08
by Iamjava
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Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:13
by Jryski
You're definitely something since you can't seem to figure out why your fiancé of 2.5 years just stopped talking to you and moved away with his parents without bothering to tell you or ever respond to your physical letters.

Re: Why did it take me so long to understand that I am gay?

Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:23
by Iamjava
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Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:45
by Jryski
I never said that I don't know why I'm not in an relationship. You were the one that said you knew why Im not in one. You're 27 and have been celibate for 13 years with breaks in between? Do you even know how celibacy works? You've been sexually active since you were 14? Okay?

Nope. I've never done anything with a woman. Surprise! I also don't ignore you because I couldn't talk to you. Honestly everything's a low blow to you. You're one of those people that try very hard to dish it but can't take it.

You bring up your ex enough on your own. By now I'm surprised if anyone here doesn't know about your ex "fiancé"

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Unread postPosted: 22 July 2019, 05:45
by Jryski
PostThis post was deleted by Jryski on 22 July 2019, 05:46.