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Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 01:43
by Jzone
I honestly don't understand why Marmaduke took such an immediate disliking to you, Saeorl. This forum is usually welcoming unless and until someone just acts like a douche, and I don't read that in your posts. So, belated welcome.

On your topic I don't have much to offer. It's odd that you have had such a different reception in Vancouver compared to the US and UK. All I can suggest is that you try different approaches with your grindr profile and hope to find something that works. I remember checking out Vancouver with grindr, and my impression was that it is a big city and guys have the luxury of being very picky. That's not a bad thing but you may have to work harder to get the response you want. Good luck there!

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 04:46
by Eryx
Saeorl123 wrote:I find it kinda strange how toxic this site is.
My only resentment towards this forum is the fact that there isn't enough random content to talk about. I chalk that up to the fact that a lot of us have known each other for a significant amount of time, so we've kind of sorted out a bunch of opinions, and nowadays the things that surface are the new stories -- just like yours -- or current events.

All of that said, I don't see the interaction here as toxic. We're on an adult forum, we're not children. I think you might have a tendency similar to what I had, that of acting online, especially in forums, as if I was still the same teenager that first logged into them. That is not how it works. I think it's more productive to expedite things and be upfront about adult behaviors rather than pretending they're cutesy or immune to being judged.

In summary: grow a bone... If you can survive having your feelings poked, you might actually get something out of this forum.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 16:26
by mxguy01
So let's summarize the OP: He claims he use to get twinks elsewhere via Grindr. Now he lives in Vancouver and doesn't. He's bitching about it to the point it sounds more like he's expecting anyone who fits into his fetish are obligated to have the unrelenting desire to have sex with him. Oh, on a hookup over Grindr.

We were expecting this not to go south so to speak? What's next, someone bitching about not getting the pick of a litter while walking through a sauna.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 16:35
by Saeorl123
mxguy01 wrote:So let's summarize the OP: He claims he use to get twinks elsewhere via Grindr. Now he lives in Vancouver and doesn't. He's bitching about it to the point it sounds more like he's expecting anyone who fits into his fetish are obligated to have the unrelenting desire to have sex with him. Oh, on a hookup over Grindr.

We were expecting this not to go south so to speak? What's next, someone bitching about not getting the pick of a litter while walking through a sauna.


Calm down, nobody is bitching in the original post, there was just seeking advice, which instead yielded insult after insult. So chill :)

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 17:26
by mxguy01
Well if it makes you feel any better you can substitute the word complaining for bitching but it's the same result.

This is chill. Considering the post I'd say the responses have been mostly appropriate. Personally I wouldn't expect much compassion nor sympathy for your perceived problem as stated.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 20:49
by Saeorl123
Jzone wrote:I honestly don't understand why Marmaduke took such an immediate disliking to you, Saeorl. This forum is usually welcoming unless and until someone just acts like a douche, and I don't read that in your posts. So, belated welcome.

On your topic I don't have much to offer. It's odd that you have had such a different reception in Vancouver compared to the US and UK. All I can suggest is that you try different approaches with your grindr profile and hope to find something that works. I remember checking out Vancouver with grindr, and my impression was that it is a big city and guys have the luxury of being very picky. That's not a bad thing but you may have to work harder to get the response you want. Good luck there!


I'll be honest I was dreading reading this reply when I first received the email notification, I was under the impression more insults were incoming.

Thank you for the warm welcome :) I'm unsure, maybe they need to seek professional help; maybe they assume throwing insult after insult at someone is helpful. At least they stopped harassing me when I asked.

I think it's because in the US my British accent alone turned heads. Most guys I met in the US said my accent was a huge plus. Canadians and indeed Australians (or so I'm told) aren't nearly as bothered by it.

That's a very good point. In the US I was in a small town and my British hometown is also relatively small, both locations far smaller than Vancouver. I never considered that, but it makes sense, so thanks!

Also, I really appreciate the warm welcome and friendly response without insulting comments. You're one of a kind on here, so thanks :)

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 6 November 2019, 20:51
by Saeorl123
mxguy01 wrote:Well if it makes you feel any better you can substitute the word complaining for bitching but it's the same result.

This is chill. Considering the post I'd say the responses have been mostly appropriate. Personally I wouldn't expect much compassion nor sympathy for your perceived problem as stated.


Please stop harassing me

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 7 November 2019, 09:49
by Jryski
Welcome to the forum! :D For the record, Imma twink and I'd totally treat you dinner and just sit and chat with ya :P Let me try to take a shot at this thread for ya.

Grindr is basically a hookup site. I've made some pretty good friends through the app but 99.9% of folks on there are lookin for sex. Twinks are mainly attracted to other twinks and young looking jock types. If you're not one of those I'd say your chances are slashed right off the bat.

When you're looking for someone to have sex with, you're obviously going to find someone that you find sexually appealing based on looks alone cuz.... let's be honest, nobody really gives a damn about a bubbly personality during sex.

Twinks are the teenagers in the adult world and will behave as such so don't get offended when they give you a smartass reply that's rude and condescending. We get harrassed a lot of times by older creepy pervs that think we exist solely for their entertainment.

When you want to start a conversation, try something that's not so common. "Hey, whatchu lookin for, and what kinda guys ya like?" Are basically another way of sayyin that you wanna fuck. You might have better luck if you read their profile first and see what their interests are. If they're possibly a match then hit em up.

Anyways, I think people took your post the wrong way since we don't know you yet and it kinda came off like another older dude being upset because they only like younger guys and younger guys don't like em back. Good luck doe! I'm sure you'll find yourself a twink sooner or later :)

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 7 November 2019, 16:59
by Saeorl123
Jryski wrote:Welcome to the forum! :D For the record, Imma twink and I'd totally treat you dinner and just sit and chat with ya :P Let me try to take a shot at this thread for ya.

Grindr is basically a hookup site. I've made some pretty good friends through the app but 99.9% of folks on there are lookin for sex. Twinks are mainly attracted to other twinks and young looking jock types. If you're not one of those I'd say your chances are slashed right off the bat.

When you're looking for someone to have sex with, you're obviously going to find someone that you find sexually appealing based on looks alone cuz.... let's be honest, nobody really gives a damn about a bubbly personality during sex.

Twinks are the teenagers in the adult world and will behave as such so don't get offended when they give you a smartass reply that's rude and condescending. We get harrassed a lot of times by older creepy pervs that think we exist solely for their entertainment.

When you want to start a conversation, try something that's not so common. "Hey, whatchu lookin for, and what kinda guys ya like?" Are basically another way of sayyin that you wanna fuck. You might have better luck if you read their profile first and see what their interests are. If they're possibly a match then hit em up.

Anyways, I think people took your post the wrong way since we don't know you yet and it kinda came off like another older dude being upset because they only like younger guys and younger guys don't like em back. Good luck doe! I'm sure you'll find yourself a twink sooner or later :)


Hey thanks for the warm welcome Jryski :) Aww haha, that's very sweet of you xD

Since making this post I removed all content from my bio and I finally got somewhere. I removed my interests and other info. You're right, on grindr they only care about sex lol.

I have the young looks but I don't have the jacked body of a typical jock, so that's what I'm working on now, to stand out more in this huge city :)

Damn, I wasn't trying to come off as simply wanting to fuck when I asked those questions, I was just trying to add more content than just hey. Give them something to respond to and get the chat rolling. I'll think of another way, thanks! :) I do start chats specifically tailored to their interests if they have it in their bio, especially fellow gaymers, but that doesn't help me much here in Van.

I definitely feel the pain with the harassment from older guys, and I'm not even a twink! I don't have the build for it. I have the face I guess? I certainly never treated any twink like that, we always become friends and go out and have fun that isn't just sex.

Oh no, I was just discussing my personal experiences on grindr and how it differs from past locations :)

Thanks for the kind reply and helpful feedback :)

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 8 November 2019, 00:00
by Jryski
No probs! Good luck on ur twink hunt! :P

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 8 November 2019, 13:35
by poolerboy0077
Jryski wrote:Twinks are mainly attracted to other twinks and young looking jock types. If you're not one of those I'd say your chances are slashed right off the bat.

:cry:




OP be like:






Marm, teach us all your panty-dropping openers. We want to learn from the masterbater.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 11 November 2019, 19:49
by Eos
Edit : sorry my post is not so relevant I didn't saw the second page.

I think you guys are judging him too quickly, I was very surprised by most replies I read here, it's not the kind of support anyone need.

Just like him I don't see what kind of advices you gave, or even a simple feel from what he is saying.

Marmaduke if you don't know how to help why do you bother "talking to him" ?

I'm gonna reply to you now Seaorl :

You shouldn't worry much about how you look, just as long as you have good pictures (i.e that looks like the real you), don't hesitate to put more than one.

Also, even if there is a lot of people on Grindr, I find this network concentrate a lot of people that only wants sex, so try other apps, like Erix said.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 13 November 2019, 06:54
by poolerboy0077
Last time I sent someone a message with something to the effect of, “I’m gonna shove my filthy illegal Mexican dick so far up your rectum you’re gonna WISH Trump built that wall.” I think I intimidated him because he never responded. That’s at least the story I’m running with.

Re: I have no luck on grindr

Unread postPosted: 14 November 2019, 19:40
by GearFetTwinkRomance
I dunno much about the Grindr as what I read about that thing frequently, but I happen to know a couple from Vancouver, and maybe they snatch all the good Twinks and ship them to Cali or something. Not.

Could be there's just the dim Twinks on Grindr for Vancouver, or Twinks that seek other Twinks only.
Dunno. Twinks that are Gerontophiles. Twinks wearing diapers and want to be trained for a Sissy-dog...Twinks that pretend to be Twinks. Twinks that were Twinks in 1968...who knows?
Was Pooler in Vancouver lately? Because then we would know, why the best Twinks are all gone. :D

What I do know, if Twinks don't choose one as a person, one can't make them. They are to choose, who they find attractive. Okay, there's the kind that rather will incline, once you offer whatever kind of payment. It seems somehow mysterious why Twinks would not go for someone about same age. It should be common, that they don't want someone much older, and having to live with it as an older guy just remains to be the common fate. :shrug:

Reading on the British accent I thought you would be Claus from 'The Vampire diaries' for some split second. :) ( I like his accent, the actor is British, I guess ) Canadians don't care,since many of them talk in an idiom closer to the UK than most US-Americans do. So yes, there's a difference, of course, but it's rather slight. Of course, if you go up north. Northwestern Canuck idiom sounds different, it's got more of a native twang to it.

So, advice would be wee. Go, where the Twinks of Vancouver hang out, try outside of Grindr, the place they call the real life. Look for younger people's sport activity groups, maybe. Cruising areas ... but be careful,. there are frequently geezers that style as Twinks and hope guys won't mind once it's dark enough. They appear like those guys in the movie 'Mimikry' quite a bit.

Autism spectrum? Dunno, but rather no.