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Derek wrote:It would still take less time to use it anyway than it would to put everything back.

You know what? Sure. You’re right. Did that give you the warm feeling in your trousers that you wanted?

I was curious before, now I'm just confused.

Derek wrote:I was curious before, now I'm just confused.

I think that you’re being deliberately callous and smart-alecky toward the issue and ensuing anxiety attack I had tonight because from what I have seen it gives you pleasure.

Edit: For the most part that’s fine, too. I’m not about to let this garbage continue to ruin this night long after it happened. Setbacks happen, and getting annoyed by forum griefers isn’t going to help.

Wait, you returned $300 of groceries to the shelves in order to remain compliant with the “10 items or fewer” guidance above the self-check aisle? After 10pm? On a weeknight?

Erm…I’m not “griefing” you when I say that Derek’s confusion is absolutely justified. Unless there was a long queue for a single till, you made an obviously stupid choice.

Did you genuinely think a store representative would chastise you for being a patron of their store at an ungodly hour and not purchasing your items 10 at a time so as to comply with a signage clearly only intended to ensure most speedy utilisation of store resources at peak times?

Derek is the bad guy here? He wasn’t being smart-alecky or callous.

I am. Because you either wholly failed to understand the context of your situation, or your anxiety has developed to the point where it’s becoming genuinely and concerning debilitating. Ignoring it and pretending it was all fine won’t make it better.

The first step is dealing with a problem is acknowledging you have one.

^ That’s fine because I know you’re just like Derek is; a bully who has forum politics on his side.

What puts a frown on my face is people who have no compassion for people with mental illness.

rogonandi wrote:

Derek wrote:

rogonandi wrote:After gathering about 300 dollars in groceries I found out no one would will be ringing them up because the cashier isles close at 10 and only self checkout was available.

Since when!? and fuck that!

I put everything back where it was supposed to be and put my cart away and left. At least I didn’t miss the last bus home.

I’m so upset and full of anxiety that I can’t even think straight but I didn’t take it out on anyone. I guess I should be grateful that I didn’t embarrass myself.

Why didn't you just use the self-checkout?

Because I had 300 dollars in groceries. Don’t say that they’re supposed to be used for checkouts like that because you know they’re not.

I don’t know about Canada, but here the self-checkouts are fine with any sized transaction and some larger grocery stores even have conveyor-belt ones.

I don’t know about Canada, but here the self-checkouts are fine with any sized transaction and some larger grocery stores even have conveyor-belt ones.

I would have really liked to have something like that. Instead we have machines that make loud noises if you make any kind of mistake during.

rogonandi wrote:

I don’t know about Canada, but here the self-checkouts are fine with any sized transaction and some larger grocery stores even have conveyor-belt ones.

I would have really liked to have something like that. Instead we have machines that make loud noises if you make any kind of mistake during.

A) You can often turn them down! Usually somewhere on the main screen while scanning there is a speaker icon or volume up/down icons.
B) If you know how they work, it's pretty straightforward to get through the process without a weight alert or anything. You just have to know that they check the weight of whatever was just scanned, so after scanning you have to set the item on the bagging-area scale. The trick is to not try and do any bagging or anything while scanning, and not to put any of your own bags on the scale (even if it says to and provides like a "using your own bags?" tareing feature) — just methodically go through your shopping and pile everything onto the bagging area.
C) I personally LOVE self-service, because I like to see the price of everything myself on the screen and ensure I'm not getting over charged or some deal hasn't gone through properly. I also think it's actually much more anxiety-induing to be rushed through the process by a human and be judged by them for not bagging quick enough or whatever.

Seeing that girl I don’t like at school being so close to my friends.

Marmaduke wrote:Derek is the bad guy here? He wasn’t being smart-alecky or callous.

Not true. I'm a griefer. I griefed several of my coworkers just today by asking them obvious follow-up questions out of polite interest after listening to them talk. I'm a menace and I should be stopped.

rogonandi wrote:After gathering about 300 dollars in groceries I found out no one would will be ringing them up because the cashier isles close at 10 and only self checkout was available.

Since when!? and fuck that!

I put everything back where it was supposed to be and put my cart away and left. At least I didn’t miss the last bus home.

I’m so upset and full of anxiety that I can’t even think straight but I didn’t take it out on anyone. I guess I should be grateful that I didn’t embarrass myself.

Hahaha! If I'd been in your position I'd have been downright terrified!

Either you use the self-checkout, in which case you look absurd using it with a cart full of stuff, or else you put everything away and someone might judge you for it, or you might look stupid. In either case, I'd probably have just felt like dying right where I stood, realizing the two crap alternatives.

Anyway, just know at least one other person than you (i.e., me) would've felt extremely anxious about it.

rogonandi wrote:^ That’s fine because I know you’re just like Derek is; a bully who has forum politics on his side.

Oh, I rather hope one day you'll get used to Marmaduke and his uniquely grumpy temperament. At this point I take it as a sheer delight to read a post from him that's mocking me, scolding me, or otherwise saying something excoriating. After all, to be honest I find it incredibly amusing! He's like an old, grumpy cat that didn't get enough sleep and just growls at you whenever you try to pet it. I mean, it's a cute cat, you still adore it; but you just never want to get too close to it, otherwise it'll bite you.

McTaggartfan wrote:

rogonandi wrote:^ That’s fine because I know you’re just like Derek is; a bully who has forum politics on his side.

Oh, I rather hope one day you'll get used to Marmaduke and his uniquely grumpy temperament. At this point I take it as a sheer delight to read a post from him that's mocking me, scolding me, or otherwise saying something excoriating. After all, to be honest I find it incredibly amusing! He's like an old, grumpy cat that didn't get enough sleep and just growls at you whenever you try to pet it. I mean, it's a cute cat, you still adore it; but you just never want to get too close to it, otherwise it'll bite you.

And just in case Marmaduke didn't see my tribute to him on the Song of the Moment thread, I'll post it again! Somehow this song always reminds me of him now, probably because I find his grumpy asshole-ishness so amusing nowadays.

To be clear, though, I like him perfectly well; I just don't always approve of some of the things he says to other people, or the ways in which he chooses to say them.

erti wrote:I survived another anxiety attack. 🙃

Lol, why did that put a frown on your face??? Sounds like good news that you survived!

McTaggartfan wrote:

rogonandi wrote:After gathering about 300 dollars in groceries I found out no one would will be ringing them up because the cashier isles close at 10 and only self checkout was available.

Since when!? and fuck that!

I put everything back where it was supposed to be and put my cart away and left. At least I didn’t miss the last bus home.

I’m so upset and full of anxiety that I can’t even think straight but I didn’t take it out on anyone. I guess I should be grateful that I didn’t embarrass myself.

Hahaha! If I'd been in your position I'd have been downright terrified!

Either you use the self-checkout, in which case you look absurd using it with a cart full of stuff, or else you put everything away and someone might judge you for it, or you might look stupid. In either case, I'd probably have just felt like dying right where I stood, realizing the two crap alternatives.

Anyway, just know at least one other person than you (i.e., me) would've felt extremely anxious about it.

It’s genuinely wonderful to hear someone who can actually emphasize with me on this. Thank you very very much.

I'm only 35min into watching Mats Larsson Gothe's new opera, The Promise, and I already feel a bit like crying. It premiered 27 January, on International Holocaust Remembrance Day. It's about a woman who gets separated from her husband in a concentration camp and then in the aftermath of WW2 tries to find him again.

[Update:] I'm halfway through the first act now, but I'm going to take a break from it. It's not that it's bad or anything—far from it! Rather, it's just that it's so incredibly sad that I don't want it to put me into a really low mood. I'll probably make dinner and then go back to it after.

[Final update:] I finished it (i.e. both acts) and it didn't get any cheerier. I'd definitely recommend it as an opera, since it was very good; but I would still warn of its incredibly dark subject-matter, which is obviously the loss of a loved one, the search to find him, and all of it under the shadow of the Holocaust.

Someone stole my large soda out of the break room fridge.

rogonandi wrote:Someone stole my large soda out of the break room fridge.

Well, I mean thieves do tend to steal. So that much isn't terribly surprising.