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Sex with the opposite gender when you’re bi

Unread postPosted: 5 February 2020, 17:09
by EducateMe
Okay some background information, growing up I was the biggest tomboy so much so that people actually thought I was boy. I know I mean it hurt my feelings but I’m stronger for it but that’s not the problem. For as long as I can remember I (a female) have been into women. Recently my views have changed I always assumed that I wasn’t someone who was picky when it comes to sex, I’m pretty much down with anyone (not to come off as a whore) but recently I realized that I could be bisexual and I’m just trying to discover myself but I met this guy on a dating website and he was the most amazing guy; we only talked briefly and we tried to have sex and I don’t know I just want really into it. It didn’t do much for me and he was really putting in work lol. However I have also never had sex with a guy and I was super nervous and scared but he’s was such a gentlemen but I just wasn’t into it I at least I don’t think I was ugh I honestly don’t know! I should also state that I have had quite a serious injury in my vagnial area that could made sex painful and he’s wasn’t small or it was because it was first time so I had to ask him to stop which he was totally understanding of and I guess my question is to all the people that have experience in this. Have you ever fallen for someone you don’t really wanna have sex with? Or just wasn’t getting turned on? But you’re still really into the person? Ik you can be romantically into someone but not sexually but I really want to be attracted to him and I am but the sex is just idk different ig any advice??

Re: Sex with the opposite gender when you’re bi

Unread postPosted: 25 February 2020, 17:32
by secretasianman
Just talk with him. If he has feelings for you back, he'll be okay with the situation until there's a resolution that's good for you both. I'm a bi guy, and the first time I was with a guy who was big down there, I couldn't take his cock, but he was okay with just blowjobs until I was ready to give it another try. It's really about patience and communication.

Re: Sex with the opposite gender when you’re bi

Unread postPosted: 27 February 2020, 06:56
by Eryx
Maybe the nervousness got in the way and things could be better for the next times, but maybe you're just attracted to his personality, and not his gender. It's really hard for anyone else to say but you. I wish I could say something more meaningful, and I wish you the best of luck!