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Hi,

I'm new to the BDSM scene and am a mature gay man. On the scale between straight and gay I'm all the way gay. This presents a problem for me entering the BDSM world because in the three different groups I've been to in Houston there are always both males & females. The idea of seeing a female naked, much less, in a BDSM scene is disgusting to me. I'm wondering if other totally gay men have the same problem.

By totally gay I mean on that scale of sexuality where totally homo is at one end, totally hetero on the other, and bi in the middle.

Thanks!

I don't think you'll find many people who are into the BDSM "scene" here. I mean, I am into some BDSM stuff, but I'm not into any scene, world or group stuff if that makes sense.

I can certainly relate to your feelings about naked females though!

Not into anything BDSM and after reading a various fair bit about it, the more driven away.

Yet I can very well relate to seeing females nude or, in any context to erotics, in a similar way that skinned sheep likely would be seen. I'd feel greatly repulsed. It's the opposite of attraction.
I think it just can apply for 100% gay Bromance and everything else 100% gay the same.

Might be there are more or less Bisexuals attracted to these specific clubs?

I'm sure Houston has exclusively gay BDSM scenes, you're probably just barking up the wrong trees.

One would think that in a large metro area like Houston, there would be a male only BDSM group, but I've not yet found one. Someone recommended leather groups, but I'm not sure I'm into leather. There are two LGBTQI+ BDSM groups, but they include women. Hopefully I'll get to the point where Lesbians are not a problem ...

Get over it, maybe? Seeing a pair of tits isn't going to give you cooties.

Derek wrote:Get over it, maybe? Seeing a pair of tits isn't going to give you cooties.

And in any event, bears are the real source of revulsion.

Always kind of blows my mind that some gay guys are not simply neutral, but disgusted by the thought of naked women.

But then, I'm not the target audience here so can't relate. Nor can I help you. Boobs are great. Good luck, though.

samstamport wrote:Hopefully I'll get to the point where Lesbians are not a problem...

Careful now. Say that too loud, and the lesbians will beat the shit out of you.

Magic J wrote:Always kind of blows my mind that some gay guys are not simply neutral, but disgusted by the thought of naked women.

I think, it's a Tentaculophobia of a kind, and comes restricted to anything to do with erotics.

I don't care much about women at the beach or them who like to walk around boobs swinging at home or feed their baby. And watching blockbuster movies, that like, Commercials and where ever they are to be seen.
In context to sexual pleasures though, the sole image takes the pleasure part out of everything.
Still, I would go even further, as not every guy will activate the pleasure module either.
Picture someone you don't want to see naked, and think about sexual pleasure. Just imagine Justin Bieber had boobs and the c-thing down there... Wouldn't one have to be a 97 year old Shao Lin monk to not gross out?

Magic J wrote:Always kind of blows my mind that some gay guys are not simply neutral, but disgusted by the thought of naked women.

But then, I'm not the target audience here so can't relate. Nor can I help you. Boobs are great. Good luck, though.

samstamport wrote:Hopefully I'll get to the point where Lesbians are not a problem...

Careful now. Say that too loud, and the lesbians will beat the shit out of you.

René is that way, though I can never quite imagine why. Maybe that's because I find some women rather attractive, but idk.

René wrote:I don't think you'll find many people who are into the BDSM "scene" here. I mean, I am into some BDSM stuff, but I'm not into any scene, world or group stuff if that makes sense.

I can certainly relate to your feelings about naked females though!

Did you ever figure out why this was?

Thanks for these wonderful posts.

Seems like I'm not the only one who is grossed out by seeing naked women.

Maybe we could form a group. If you're interested let me know.

samstamport wrote:Thanks for these wonderful posts.

Seems like I'm not the only one who is grossed out by seeing naked women.

Maybe we could form a group. If you're interested let me know.

I even have tried to fap by watching only female for a month,,, uuummm,,, no that doesn't work. maybe is some crazy girl forced me to do, by blind fold me and forced my dick become rocking hard, that would work sometimes I thinking about it and makes me hard.

its fun letting them watch as I'm getting a hard cock in my mouth or my ass