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Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 31 March 2021, 18:42
by anonn
I always though that it's a must but recently I've learned that I was wrong...
Does anyone here also not douching before casual anal?
If so how clean are you, how practical is it and does it get smelly?

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 31 March 2021, 20:39
by betonhaus
I top so wouldn't know, but I'd say if you control your diet you can usually get by without needing to douche.

But if you must douche please for the love of gods don't make a big deal of it to your hookups. 8 had one guy who as I was driving up to his place was going on about that he was douching for me and how much he hates it. and that was a big turnoff for me.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 31 March 2021, 22:00
by richardjohnstone0683
I have a routine... if I am planning on meeting up I have the thursday/friday soup diet and douche before meeting up. Seeing that its kind of force of habit and I don't over do it, it isn't an inconvenience, plus I'm probably more paranoid about an accident

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 31 March 2021, 23:17
by René
I don't do casual, but I've never douched and never will. Cleanliness is never a problem for me.

I especially would never consider douching before casual sex because it seems to be associated with increased risk of contracting STIs.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 31 March 2021, 23:36
by poolerboy0077
René wrote:I don't do casual, but I've never douched and never will. Cleanliness is never a problem for me.

Have you ever considered that you may be speaking from a position of anal white privilege? That maybe your diet of boxty and ketchup doesn’t provide you with the same social obstacles that a person with a more spiced background has to face?

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 1 April 2021, 00:40
by anonn
René wrote:I don't do casual, but I've never douched and never will. Cleanliness is never a problem for me.

I especially would never consider douching before casual sex because it seems to be associated with increased risk of contracting STIs.

So you are telling me that you can have anal without any mess not even a poop residue on the dick\toy?...
What the hell are you eating and for how long before the act?...

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 1 April 2021, 02:07
by Raynethemagi
I don't but I'm taking the best preventative care for getting STI's or STD's. I haven't had sex in 6 going on 7 years.

I've decided that I'm going to have sex with someone who wants to be with me for the rest of my life. I think of it as sex hacking. Cause, if I do get STD's or STI's, at least it'll be with someone who won't abandon me and run away like a coward!

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 1 April 2021, 21:00
by Eryx
Only if I think it's necessary.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 3 April 2021, 17:56
by René
anonn wrote:
René wrote:I don't do casual, but I've never douched and never will. Cleanliness is never a problem for me.

I especially would never consider douching before casual sex because it seems to be associated with increased risk of contracting STIs.

So you are telling me that you can have anal without any mess not even a poop residue on the dick\toy?...
What the hell are you eating and for how long before the act?...

Yes.

Being clean for bottoming is ideally more of a lifestyle choice than something you do in the last X hours before having sex.

  1. Good diet with plenty of fibre (both soluble and insoluble, e.g. for breakfast eat oatmeal with All-Bran Buds, Bran Flakes and/or Grape Nuts sprinkled on top; always go for whole grains / wholemeal versions of stuff like pasta and bread and avoid white/refined grains) and healthy fats (olive, coconut, peanut, sesame, butter, etc.)
  2. Drink lots of water (I aim for 7 big glasses or about 2 litres a day myself)
  3. Take Pure for Men (I take 3 capsules before the two meals with the least soluble fibre I eat every day, typically lunch and dinner)
These are healthy habits anyway and will reduce your risk of heart disease, diabetes etc.

Be sure to do this consistently for at least a week or so in advance, but ideally all the time no matter what.

I also find it helpful to completely avoid spicy foods and caffeine.

Then make sure you feel like there's nothing there. You can check with a finger (with lube/spit, obviously) to make sure. Having said that, a nice top will not want you to be all anxious and stressed out about being spotless.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 3 April 2021, 18:35
by Derek
I only douche before formal anal.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 13:18
by stlbtmguy
i have to douche before any formal or casual sex because you fucking tops can't take a little shit on your little cocks. So fuck all of you assholes and especially Rene who thinks they know everything about the human body and sex. If Rene was such a fucking expert, they would be a doctor. So fuck you Rene and your fucking advise.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 13:57
by René
stlbtmguy wrote:i have to douche before any formal or casual sex because you fucking tops can't take a little shit on your little cocks.

Wait, is "formal sex" really a thing people say? :P

stlbtmguy wrote:So fuck all of you assholes and especially Rene who thinks they know everything about the human body and sex.

You okay bud?

I don't think I know everything. Just what works for me and what I've heard from other people has helped them.

stlbtmguy wrote:If Rene was such a fucking expert, they would be a doctor.

Because doctors are totally the experts on gay sex...

stlbtmguy wrote:So fuck you Rene

I feel like there might be more effective insults to use against a bottom. :D

stlbtmguy wrote:and your fucking advise.

You do know you're free not to follow it and to keep douching all you want, right?

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 16:44
by Marmaduke
I think we should start a movement in the gay community to have formal sex be a thing. You could have nice invites printed and post them out. Iron a shirt. Put on a tie. I’m here for it.

Also, just because it’s so rarely the prevailing mood; Fuck you, René. Fuck you and your fucking advice.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 17:35
by betonhaus
I just learned from one of my bottoms that he does douche before sex so it might be more common then I originally thought...

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 17:54
by poolerboy0077
Marmaduke wrote:I think we should start a movement in the gay community to have formal sex be a thing. You could have nice invites printed and post them out. Iron a shirt. Put on a tie. I’m here for it.

Also, just because it’s so rarely the prevailing mood; Fuck you, René. Fuck you and your fucking advice.

Maybe bottoms can curtsy in some distinct way and tops can just gently graze their tips.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 18:25
by Brenden
stlbtmguy wrote:i have to douche before any formal or casual sex because you fucking tops can't take a little shit on your little cocks. So fuck all of you assholes and especially Rene who thinks they know everything about the human body and sex. If Rene was such a fucking expert, they would be a doctor. So fuck you Rene and your fucking advise.

This response is so ridiculous and uncalled for. You asked him what he does and he answered. What the fuck is wrong with you?

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 20:15
by betonhaus
Brenden wrote:
stlbtmguy wrote:i have to douche before any formal or casual sex because you fucking tops can't take a little shit on your little cocks. So fuck all of you assholes and especially Rene who thinks they know everything about the human body and sex. If Rene was such a fucking expert, they would be a doctor. So fuck you Rene and your fucking advise.

This response is so ridiculous and uncalled for. You asked him what he does and he answered. What the fuck is wrong with you?

Sounds like he has a stick up his ass.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 20:16
by Marmaduke
betonhaus wrote:
Brenden wrote:
stlbtmguy wrote:i have to douche before any formal or casual sex because you fucking tops can't take a little shit on your little cocks. So fuck all of you assholes and especially Rene who thinks they know everything about the human body and sex. If Rene was such a fucking expert, they would be a doctor. So fuck you Rene and your fucking advise.

This response is so ridiculous and uncalled for. You asked him what he does and he answered. What the fuck is wrong with you?

Sounds like he has a stick up his ass.

It was probably less the stick, and more the informal circumstances under which the stick came to be inserted, that upset him.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 19 April 2021, 20:35
by glückspilz
Luckily my partner isn't really complicated when it comes to an accident. Typically I douche when I feel it's necessary or when we plan an extensive, deep anal session. For casual fucking I normally do not douche. When feeling really unclean and not ready for a long cleaning act, we always have other options to have fun together.

Re: Do you douche before casual anal?

Unread postPosted: 21 April 2021, 16:50
by lufia
People make a big deal of this issue, but douching isn't necessary if you know a little about biology. When you eat, it takes your body 2-3 hours to process it. If I am seeing a guy and fully plan on having my brains fucked out, then I eat light that day, and stop eating 5 hours before the planned encounter. I wait until I use the restroom, and then take a shower and clean myself thoroughly. As long as you don't eat more than an hour before the encounter, there will be nothing there. I never douche, and I have never had any problems.