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I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 18:28
by john dixon
I do not know much about gay lifestyle
I have met up with a few on craigslist
I like having anal sex I am a bottom
I at times feel bad about gay sex because I am religious.
I feel bad now anyone can help
please share with your thoughts

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 18:31
by Marmaduke
Convert to the Church of the Invisible Pink Unicorn (peace be onto her) and you'll feel better in no time.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 18:46
by René
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Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 22:14
by furiousgeorge
You need to share your thoughts first. What exactly is the problem? Why do you feel bad? I know the obvious answer to that, but I want to hear you express it in your own words. What do you think a solution looks like in a perfect world?

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 22:39
by MrBoddy2005
Just remember, Jesus will love you no matter what

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 23:10
by Derek
MrBoddy2005 wrote:Just remember, Jesus will love you no matter what

One time Jesus condemned a fig tree to death because it didn't have any figs.

OP, I'm not sure what advice to give. I don't think there's anything wrong with hooking up with guys, but I'm not religious. No one can just tell you which beliefs to accept. You need to figure out your priorities.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 23:20
by Marmaduke
For as long as you genuinely believe that God is deeply displeased when you take it up the bum, then you're always going to feel guilty about it. Your faith, as it stands, and your sex life are not compatible. One must be discontinued or adjusted.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 23:25
by MrBoddy2005
Derek wrote:
MrBoddy2005 wrote:Just remember, Jesus will love you no matter what

One time Jesus condemned a fig tree to death because it didn't have any figs.

OP, I'm not sure what advice to give. I don't think there's anything wrong with hooking up with guys, but I'm not religious. No one can just tell you which beliefs to accept. You need to figure out your priorities.



That's ok, God hates figs, remember??

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 23 January 2015, 23:37
by poolerboy0077
Derek wrote:
MrBoddy2005 wrote:Just remember, Jesus will love you no matter what

One time Jesus condemned a fig tree to death because it didn't have any figs.

There needs to be more elaboration as to why this story is unloving for people unfamiliar with the symbolism here. That story is meant to be a prophetic example to his disciples that Israel (often represented as a fig tree in the Bible) will be destroyed for having rejected their Messiah, regardless of a few accepting him, in the same way that the fig tree did not yield fruit for Jesus to eat. It gets back to the central point in Christianity that the world ought to be divide between those who accept his divinity based on bald assertion and display of magic tricks over those who don't, using rewards of paradise and eternal punishments, respectively. He's an evil bastard.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 24 January 2015, 06:41
by Ebsy
René wrote:
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Dying.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 25 January 2015, 15:15
by swissagent
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Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 25 January 2015, 16:09
by NickBoylan
First, please be safe if you're having sex. In the heat of the moment and in time of confusion you can make awful choices. We'd love to have you here on our community, and for you to be healthy.

Second, what my mom told me when I came out to her resonates to this day: "Why would He create something that He would instantly condemn and damn? He created you, He loves you, you're going to be fine." You can live like Christ, and love like Christ, and be like Christ. That's what counts. Accepting Him as your Savior is what being Christian is all about. Be a good person.

Now for your sexuality, just take the time to have a conversation with yourself and see what you like and don't like, and don't be afraid to have honest answers. Some self reflection is great. Meeting guys is okay, too, but CL guys are probably looking for some hardcore sex and not interested in talking about your larger issues.

Lean on us here. Good luck.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 25 January 2015, 16:48
by acpro
NickBoylan wrote:Second, what my mom told me when I came out to her resonates to this day: "Why would He create something that He would instantly condemn and damn? He created you, He loves you, you're going to be fine." You can live like Christ, and love like Christ, and be like Christ. That's what counts. Accepting Him as your Savior is what being Christian is all about.


That's actually the exact reason I became non-religious at like 15. Now I have other reasons.

Hmm I would say, deal with one thing at a time. Do your thing with sex then deal with God whenever you end up meeting him. Who knows, maybe he'll beg you for your forgiveness for making you feel the way you do about sex.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:21
by Frigid
Sounds like a car dealership.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:23
by Marmaduke
Frigid wrote:Sounds like a car dealership.

You look pretty in your new avatar.

I know that's off topic, but why in the world I stayed on this topic in the first place baffles me.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:23
by Frigid
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:Sounds like a car dealership.

You look pretty in your new avatar.

I know that's off topic, but why in the world I stayed on this topic in the first place baffles me.

No you look pretty.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:28
by Marmaduke
Frigid wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:Sounds like a car dealership.

You look pretty in your new avatar.

I know that's off topic, but why in the world I stayed on this topic in the first place baffles me.

No you look pretty.

I'm a tiger, I believe the correct adjective is majestic.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:29
by Frigid
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:Sounds like a car dealership.

You look pretty in your new avatar.

I know that's off topic, but why in the world I stayed on this topic in the first place baffles me.

No you look pretty.

I'm a tiger, I believe the correct adjective is majestic.

Pretty and majestic.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:32
by Marmaduke
Frigid wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
Frigid wrote:Sounds like a car dealership.

You look pretty in your new avatar.

I know that's off topic, but why in the world I stayed on this topic in the first place baffles me.

No you look pretty.

I'm a tiger, I believe the correct adjective is majestic.

Pretty and majestic.

Fine, that seems a fair compromise.

Re: I am a religous mostly straight guy who needs help

Unread postPosted: 26 January 2015, 20:37
by Frigid
I feel like I just won something.