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need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 25 September 2019, 20:08
by mastmck
Hi
I'm currently on holiday in England and there's a barman at the hotel I'm staying at and he is hot.
Problem is when it comes to guys I like I'm super shy and don't dare approach them about it, also I have no idea if he's even gay or interested other than a smile when ever he sees me looking at him but he works at a hotel so he smile and laughs with everyone so I can't really go on that. Plus I'm only in England for a week so I don't even know if I should approach him about it as it wouldn't give us much time to talk or get to know each other if he is interested.
What do you think I should do, should I should approach him about it or not ? and if you think I should then how should I do it ?
please help

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 26 September 2019, 00:52
by NvM
Look desperate and ask if he can act as a tour guide for the week your in town?

For example a Dinner and theater situation. It would be much easier if you tagged along with a native.

Likely you don’t have all that much time anyways

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 26 September 2019, 02:58
by Eryx
You have a week, go to a fun gay club and hook up with someone there who is way more likely to be attracted to you back. It might lead to even more fun :)

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 21 October 2019, 22:14
by mastmck
So I'm back at home now and thought I'd let you know how things turned out.
While I was still at the hotel I found his name on one of the receipts he gave me and found him on Facebook and it turned out that he was straight and in a relationship :( and the barman who was also cute but turned out to be gay was also in a relationship.

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 22 October 2019, 02:27
by Eryx
Awww, that's too bad! But at least you were in England, I bet that's pretty cool!

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 22 October 2019, 05:02
by Jryski
In a relationship is only a label people slap on. I say go for it! Don't let labels define your dietary wants! Rebel against the toxic patriarchy!

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 22 October 2019, 10:10
by lightnight
Jryski wrote:In a relationship is only a label people slap on. I say go for it! Don't let labels define your dietary wants! Rebel against the toxic patriarchy!


That made me burst into laughter

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 22 October 2019, 16:04
by mxguy01
Jryski wrote:In a relationship is only a label people slap on. I say go for it! Don't let labels define your dietary wants! Rebel against the toxic patriarchy!


Not to mention the fact that there is the possibility of 3-some. I mean if your on holiday and doing just a hook-up perhaps it would all work out. Or maybe he just broke up, etc. Nothing wrong with letting another gay guy know you're gay too. One thing for sure, being in hiding doesn't work so well.

Re: need advice on a guy I like

Unread postPosted: 30 October 2019, 11:09
by Brasileiro
Bit late, but for everybody in a similar situation:
Barmen flirt with everybody, that is how they sell more. It is charisma/sexappeal that gets them hired in the first place.
If they are really interested in you, THEY will ask for your number straigh away.
If he does not, do not hope for anything to happen. Just enjoy the minimal company that he offers during his shift.
Do not put effort in it, do not fuss over it, it is simply not worth it.