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What do you guys do if you're a bottom but attracted to another bottom? Is it a big deal? I mean we're all gay? I understand there being preferences but I feel like there's just so much division, and I have an even smaller pool of gay men to choose from. It's like impossible.

There must be a nice top out there for you!

But to answer your specific question, I feel like where there's love, there tends to be a way.

I suppose if both guys involved could at least bring themselves to top sometimes, that would go a long way!

Personally, I'm partially in that situation and trying to see if I can become at least somewhat versatile and start to enjoy topping. (Even though the relationship in my case will definitely not hinge on that.) I think I'm making some progress. Fingers crossed, haha!

Being polyamorous, in the specific scenario you've described, I'd probably be inclined to look for a top to add to the equation who likes you both and vice versa so everyone can be happy without the need for anyone to change.

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There are other things to do besides anal, but I also agree with John that some people might want to loosen up their top/bottom ways a bit. Too much of the same thing can become stale.

I wouldn't mind switching a few times for someone I'm really into, even if it's something I'll never get out of my way to do. I don't think it's a deal-breaker, but it certainly might complicate things a bit at first. Anyway, as rogonandi said, sex isn't only anal.

It's not an exact comparison, but from my online roleplay experience it seems like there's a "tier" of bottom vs top. And when you have two bottoms one inevitably assumes the dominate role.

For example I'm nearly always the bottom but I've been around guys who are even more submissive to the point where I kinda just naturally assume the more dominate position.

Again though, text-based roleplay is a far cry from doing it irl but that's my two cents on the matter.

My best friend, boyfriend and live-in partner and I are total bottoms. I'm attracted to him and him to me, however both of us prefer to be penetrated far moreso than penetrate.

What we have decided to do is find a top we are mutually attracted to and invite him into bed with both of us. We have been a "throuple" twice when the top stayed with us for a few months at a time. And we have shared 8 different cocks now.

For the most part it works out. He and I are the true couple who stick by each other through it all, we just don't satisfy each other sexually. We openly welcome our top and third into our circle, its just like regular dating except the top gets to date 2 bottoms.

I mean this is probably why God saw fit to invent double-ended dildos?

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:My best friend, boyfriend and live-in partner and I are total bottoms. I'm attracted to him and him to me, however both of us prefer to be penetrated far moreso than penetrate.

Let’s not confuse matters by giving the impression you’re in a four-way polyamory of submission. He’s your boyfriend, we’re happy to assume that puts him towards the top of the friendship league table.

Marmaduke wrote:

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:My best friend, boyfriend and live-in partner and I are total bottoms. I'm attracted to him and him to me, however both of us prefer to be penetrated far moreso than penetrate.

Let’s not confuse matters by giving the impression you’re in a four-way polyamory of submission. He’s your boyfriend, we’re happy to assume that puts him towards the top of the friendship league table.

Yeah, I actually started reading that thinking there were 4 people involved.

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:What we have decided to do is find a top we are mutually attracted to and invite him into bed with both of us. We have been a "throuple" twice when the top stayed with us for a few months at a time. And we have shared 8 different cocks now.

For the most part it works out. He and I are the true couple who stick by each other through it all, we just don't satisfy each other sexually. We openly welcome our top and third into our circle, its just like regular dating except the top gets to date 2 bottoms.

As you refer to dating, do you plan to eventually find one guy you both love and vice versa, to settle down with permanently?

René wrote:

Marmaduke wrote:

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:My best friend, boyfriend and live-in partner and I are total bottoms. I'm attracted to him and him to me, however both of us prefer to be penetrated far moreso than penetrate.

Let’s not confuse matters by giving the impression you’re in a four-way polyamory of submission. He’s your boyfriend, we’re happy to assume that puts him towards the top of the friendship league table.

Yeah, I actually started reading that thinking there were 4 people involved.

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:What we have decided to do is find a top we are mutually attracted to and invite him into bed with both of us. We have been a "throuple" twice when the top stayed with us for a few months at a time. And we have shared 8 different cocks now.

For the most part it works out. He and I are the true couple who stick by each other through it all, we just don't satisfy each other sexually. We openly welcome our top and third into our circle, its just like regular dating except the top gets to date 2 bottoms.

As you refer to dating, do you plan to eventually find one guy you both love and vice versa, to settle down with permanently?

Sorry I was a little confusing there but figured that the reader could figure out I was referring to one person. I guess I could have said "my boyfriend who is my best friend and lives with me"..

We would he happy to welcome a permanent top into our relationship as long as both of us get sex from him.

richardjohnstone0683 wrote:Sorry I was a little confusing there but figured that the reader could figure out I was referring to one person. I guess I could have said "my boyfriend who is my best friend and lives with me"..

We would he happy to welcome a permanent top into our relationship as long as both of us get sex from him.

Nice

My husband of 10+ years and I since early this year have a boyfriend we very much hope to eventually settle down with permanently. (I'm a bottom, husband is a top, so no issues there; we were chiefly looking for a nice compatible guy to love, cuddle and play board games with, and we found a versatile bottom, so that worked out. )

My guesses: double sided dildos and toys in general. 69 or take turns blowing each other and fingering or ramming each other’s asses with toys

Like the person above me said, there are double sided dildos, really cool sex toys, and mutual masturbation which I find just as hot if not hotter than regular penetration. There’s literally so much yall could do lol

I've never really understood mutual masturbation. But I suppose that may have something to do with the fact that the only hand that can get me off that way is my own

René wrote:I've never really understood mutual masturbation. But I suppose that may have something to do with the fact that the only hand that can get me off that way is my own

Totally understandable.